What to do?

[Botakhead]

This morning, had breakfast with a female friend, who works at another company in my office block. Got to know her for about 4 months now.

We could be considered casual friends, meet and greet type. Slowly got to know each other better, she knew I was married, and she was also having problems with her marriage. I had been her listening ear for quite awhile now and also her "Aunty Agony" giving her morale support and constructive advices.

This morning, I dun know if I was horny or what, we were seated side by side, almost shoulder touching each other, I did purposely touched her hands while we were eating and chatting. She did touch me on my arm too. Then she lean close to me and said that she would like to meet tonight for sum 'comforting action' at her place, as her hubby would be out-station in Indo country for 2 weeks, he left Sing last night.

She said she had been thinking very hard last night about wanting to have a 'good time' together with me.

I asked her why, and she replied : "because you're my confidant and my soul support figure."

I told her I will reply her after lunch, as I've got site work to attend to.

I've not been having this type of opportunity for more than 4 years now.

So, the thing is, should I take up the offer or flatly refuse her invitation?

[AmeShin]

Its possible to have a normal relationships even after a ons
Its really a matter of handling

Maybe tell her that even if you go you still hope the relationships remain as status quo.

[SgWolf]

I don't have such luck like you but I agree with what bro AmeShin said. It is about managing her expectations after the ons.

That said, you should also ask yourself if u are willing to take the risks that comes with a ons.

[kh00]

She is not a prostitute that you can pay off without any attachment.

Dont get into trouble just for a quickie. Unless you want to screw up your life after that, release your urge with a FL/geylang.

[bigbrudder]

Thought conventional wisdom is: Sex with married women is guilt free.

When things cool down, she may go back to normal and treat this as a distraction.

[Lindblum]

She's not looking for sex , just a time out . You may not like what I'm saying but you will have to refuse her to say " I don't think this will work out" face to face after night out together . Or say "we shouldn't be doing this " . It just works

[Meow^^]

Bro Botak, what if..i only say what if, that happen to you when you are out station?

This type of question is kinda vague because it consist of human feelings and urge...

[dgsk]

You have been friends for so long, you should know her enough to know if she will eventually get too sticky to the point of jeopardizing your marriage.

If not, this is Classic Friends with Benefits.

I have had a few and they have all been good. You have obviously filled her emotional void, do you want others reaping the fruits of her physical void? She may choose the wrong guy in her desperation. Grab it before the window close and take it from there.

From my experience, this may be a one off event, or a few months of intense work out before petering off, or a once in a while marathon. Everyone is different but if you live just for the moment and do not get distracted emotionally yourself, it will all work out.

Go for it.

[Max77]

Wish u gd luck and hope both of u handle it well enuff. One tip, u both of u cant take ur hands off each other in public, its a dangerous game u r playing.

[genji81]

Bro..You are married and she is married
You already known her for so many years so if she is the one initiating then should be fine.
i have my fair share of gal friends that i know for many years that suddenly turn into FWB which was never my first intention.
Just go ahead with the date first and see how it proceed from there, Just remember to be really careful with details as both of you are married.

[KingJulien]

Just do it without any further development in relationship. Purely physically comfort and tell her before hand. It perfectly alright to have sex as we all adults, just dont ruin each other families.

[freeneasy168]

Try not to go to her house u never know when her hubby will come home. Not worth the risk, go book a room n enjoy without worrying abt surprise raid.
just my 2 cents worth

[guess67]

Good luck! Go for it

[sunnysunnysunny]

Im very very surprised most bros/sis here encouraged ts to go ahead!
Where are our morals? no more sense of guilt? Hw you feel if yr spouse do this?

[KingJulien]

Originally Posted by sunnysunnysunny

Im very very surprised most bros/sis here encouraged ts to go ahead!
Where are our morals? no more sense of guilt? Hw you feel if yr spouse do this?

It normal to have sex la, it a need.