Male/ 28. [Honest] Attached but looking for fun

[darmianx]

My first ever post since being a member in 2015, not sure if this is the correct place to do it but here goes:

Long story short - I am a local Singaporean currently attached for about 7-8 years. However, partner and myself have not had sex before. We had several talks about it, and after several discussions I decided to not press any further and to give her space for her to “open up on her own” as I don’t want to give her any unnecessary pressure. Sex is important to me, but more importantly it must be consensual. I have had my fair share of fun before I was attached, and thought I could wait till my partner was ready. But after so many years, truth is i get hungrier day by day. I have tried paid services before in the past, but overall experience is always different because it’s just a transaction.

I am looking for serious ladies to have fun with, with no strings attached. I know there are many other guys posting similar threads, but I just want to be open and honest about my situation. Do PM me your contact details if you are keen and I will get in touch with you to discuss further; to see if anything can be worked out.

All adults here, so no trolls please. Only PM if really interested and keen to explore.

I treasure honesty, safety and confidentiality.
Am open to different races as well.
Can still be friends if nothing works out👍🏻

[darmianx]

Originally Posted by darmianx

My first ever post since being a member in 2015, not sure if this is the correct place to do it but here goes:

Long story short - I am a local Singaporean currently attached for about 7-8 years. However, partner and myself have not had sex before. We had several talks about it, and after several discussions I decided to not press any further and to give her space for her to “open up on her own” as I don’t want to give her any unnecessary pressure. Sex is important to me, but more importantly it must be consensual. I have had my fair share of fun before I was attached, and thought I could wait till my partner was ready. But after so many years, truth is i get hungrier day by day. I have tried paid services before in the past, but overall experience is always different because it’s just a transaction.

I am looking for serious ladies to have fun with, with no strings attached. I know there are many other guys posting similar threads, but I just want to be open and honest about my situation. Do PM me your contact details if you are keen and I will get in touch with you to discuss further; to see if anything can be worked out.

All adults here, so no trolls please. Only PM if really interested and keen to explore.

I treasure honesty, safety and confidentiality.
Am open to different races as well.
Can still be friends if nothing works out👍🏻

Forgot to include in post:

-Pleasant looking (but everyone’s tastes is different)
-Lean body, just small beer belly after circuit breakee😅
-Chinese
-173cm/64kg
-Always fully shaved for cleanliness (personal preference)

Definitely not the best in bed after some periods of inactive ness, so looking for someone to have fun together and exchange pointers. More importantly, can be open and comfortable👌🏻 I can share pic if you are keen (mosaic)

Not picky, as long you are fun and willing to explore.

[Cuntworth]

Got pic to show???

[darmianx]

Originally Posted by darmianx

My first ever post since being a member in 2015, not sure if this is the correct place to do it but here goes:

Long story short - I am a local Singaporean currently attached for about 7-8 years. However, partner and myself have not had sex before. We had several talks about it, and after several discussions I decided to not press any further and to give her space for her to “open up on her own” as I don’t want to give her any unnecessary pressure. Sex is important to me, but more importantly it must be consensual. I have had my fair share of fun before I was attached, and thought I could wait till my partner was ready. But after so many years, truth is i get hungrier day by day. I have tried paid services before in the past, but overall experience is always different because it’s just a transaction.

I am looking for serious ladies to have fun with, with no strings attached. I know there are many other guys posting similar threads, but I just want to be open and honest about my situation. Do PM me your contact details if you are keen and I will get in touch with you to discuss further; to see if anything can be worked out.

All adults here, so no trolls please. Only PM if really interested and keen to explore.

I treasure honesty, safety and confidentiality.
Am open to different races as well.
Can still be friends if nothing works out👍🏻

Originally Posted by Cuntworth

Got pic to show???

Don’t mind can PM me your contact details and i’ll be able to share. World is too small lol cannot afford to be recognised even with mosaics

[yotohime]

Originally Posted by darmianx

Forgot to include in post:

-Pleasant looking (but everyone’s tastes is different)
-Lean body, just small beer belly after circuit breakee😅
-Chinese
-173cm/64kg
-Always fully shaved for cleanliness (personal preference)

Definitely not the best in bed after some periods of inactive ness, so looking for someone to have fun together and exchange pointers. More importantly, can be open and comfortable👌🏻 I can share pic if you are keen (mosaic)

Not picky, as long you are fun and willing to explore.

bro your partner is never going to be “ready”. heads up before you go down the path to dead bedrooms.

[darmianx]

Originally Posted by yotohime

bro your partner is never going to be “ready”. heads up before you go down the path to dead bedrooms.

well i can see she’s trying her best and she’s open to pre-marital sex. but it just takes too long for it to happen. tried several times, says too painful (her first), and i just stopped because ill feel bad for forcing and always just ends up with hj... honestly been just having hjs for so long that doesn’t really excite me as much anymore. guess it’s just her hormones as she says she’s doesn’t feel the urge to wanna have sex/ or have high sex drive etc. hope it improves as she age as they always say that woman’s sex drive goes inversely proportionate to men’s as age increases

[peeboy75]

Originally Posted by darmianx

well i can see she’s trying her best and she’s open to pre-marital sex. but it just takes too long for it to happen. tried several times, says too painful (her first), and i just stopped because ill feel bad for forcing and always just ends up with hj... honestly been just having hjs for so long that doesn’t really excite me as much anymore. guess it’s just her hormones as she says she’s doesn’t feel the urge to wanna have sex/ or have high sex drive etc. hope it improves as she age as they always say that woman’s sex drive goes inversely proportionate to men’s as age increases

If she is willing then half the battle is won bro. Maybe you can try toys first to let her get used to the feeling of being inserted.. For you I think some expectations need to change too.. It doesn't mean everything is lost if there is no pentrative sex.. It shouldn't be a all of nothing kinda thing when it comes to intimacy. Does she pleasure you in other ways? My feel is that she probably needs to be taught and guided by you.. And you in turn need to learn to enjoy other moments and actions other than pentrative sex.

[darmianx]

Originally Posted by peeboy75

If she is willing then half the battle is won bro. Maybe you can try toys first to let her get used to the feeling of being inserted.. For you I think some expectations need to change too.. It doesn't mean everything is lost if there is no pentrative sex.. It shouldn't be a all of nothing kinda thing when it comes to intimacy. Does she pleasure you in other ways? My feel is that she probably needs to be taught and guided by you.. And you in turn need to learn to enjoy other moments and actions other than pentrative sex.

Yep that’s why i can see progress and am being patient. Sex isn’t everything (otherwise will break up liao, we together 7-8 years already), but does play a very important role in keeping the relationship alive in the long-term. I do love her, and that’s basically the main reason why we are still together and still strongly believe that she will be able to fulfil my sexual desires in the future. Well, she tried BJ (briefly) but doesn’t like it (so i don’t force as well). Otherwise just mainly HJ during our intimate moments; which isn’t very often btw. She doesn’t get wet easily (don’t think i’ve done it wrong based on my experiences with others in the past; though i acknowledge that everyone’s body is different). I have tried different ways of foreplay as well (instead of sticking in straightaway), but she doesn’t like me to go down on her as well as she feels gaowei, perhaps not used to it. So it’s just the usual caressing/frenching etc. During our first few attempts of sex, i did it super slowly and till a certain length she tell me cmi. so don’t think toys will work either.

[peeboy75]

Originally Posted by darmianx

Yep that’s why i can see progress and am being patient. Sex isn’t everything (otherwise will break up liao, we together 7-8 years already), but does play a very important role in keeping the relationship alive in the long-term. I do love her, and that’s basically the main reason why we are still together and still strongly believe that she will be able to fulfil my sexual desires in the future. Well, she tried BJ (briefly) but doesn’t like it (so i don’t force as well). Otherwise just mainly HJ during our intimate moments; which isn’t very often btw. She doesn’t get wet easily (don’t think i’ve done it wrong based on my experiences with others in the past; though i acknowledge that everyone’s body is different). I have tried different ways of foreplay as well (instead of sticking in straightaway), but she doesn’t like me to go down on her as well as she feels gaowei, perhaps not used to it. So it’s just the usual caressing/frenching etc. During our first few attempts of sex, i did it super slowly and till a certain length she tell me cmi. so don’t think toys will work either.

Wow...hats off to you...

[darmianx]

Originally Posted by peeboy75

Wow...hats off to you...

Yes bro. Just trying to respect her wishes and don’t wanna pressure her but i guess it’s just nature’s calling that i’m feeling dry from the inactiveness😭

[peeboy75]

Originally Posted by darmianx

Yes bro. Just trying to respect her wishes and don’t wanna pressure her but i guess it’s just nature’s calling that i’m feeling dry from the inactiveness😭

Understandable...

[Wasabi999]

Bro haven married already like this, after married will be worst. If it's true love you will not look outside for sex but diy. Men have their needs and you should seriously consider your current gf. Been there done that.

[TheMentalist]

Better see doctor and get advice to solve the sex issue with her before you marry her, otherwise your marriage will not be happy and satisfied.

Why don't you look for a FL instead of FB/FWB?

[peanodood1337]

Its good that you're being upfront and honest. I respect you for that. But you're going down the wrong path dude. So you're gonna cheat on your GF of 7-8 years just to satisfy your urges? That's pretty fucked up. Nobody deserves to get cheated on for such a reason. This is the equivalent of having your GF cheat on you because your dick is not big enough to satisfy her. Would you like that done to you?

Go have a wank, clear your head and think about it again. Do you really want to create this sort of needless drama in your life? All the hiding and the secrecy from the woman you are planning to settle down with? (I'm assuming that's your end game after almost a decade of dating. Otherwise you are just wasting everyone's youth and time). And do you really think that karma will not come back to bite you in the ass?

You have been dating for so long that sunk-cost fallacy has probably settled in. But you need to seriously think about your relationship with this woman. Do you think her vagina would magically loosen up and become lubricated 24/7 after you get married? Do you think she will suddenly become a sex fiend after you put a ring on her? Get real. If your sex life is non-existent while dating, its most likely not going to improve after marriage. Chances are, you're gonna be stuck in a sex-less relationship. Copulating only for the purposes of having kids. Which is fine for some people. But apparently not for you. So why waste your time and your GF's time?

Bro you need to sit down and think about what you want out of life. I can tell you that cheating on your GF may bring you temporary relief, but it will poison your relationship irrevocably. And possibly your future relationships as well even if you break up. Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you can do it once, you will always have the urge to do it again if the conditions are right.

Good luck.