Marrying A Thai ger

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

This only happens when the other party is a foreigner. You know the Thais are very good at practising double standards.

Whenever a Thai girl is in a relationship with a foreigner, she never fails to portray herself as one who loves her parents and siblings. This has always been the standard script. And because you're the potential ATM, her 'love' for her family is automatically translated to becoming your responsibility as well as proof of love for her.

The sad truth when the Thai girl is involved with a Thai b/f, she becomes the ATM. And many would even show off to their female peers that they could afford this and that for their b/fs. Of course in return the Thai girl gains authority over her b/f. This is why many b/fs have no qualms about letting their girls work in MPs. Only innocent Chinese males like us will think of rescuing them from the burning furnace.

And when the Thai girl is providing financial support to her b/f, do you honestly expect the b/f to 'support' the girl's parents and family ?

Remember, Thai Rak Thai. There is a cultural barrier that we should never think of overcoming.

Something that has been puzzling me; can you elaborate on why the underlining statement is the reason that the b/fs have no qualms about letting their girls work in MPs?

Second, it's common to get the excuse that thai men are "playboy" or "lazy", as such these thai girls seek/prefer foreigners. (and I think there's a preferred order with Jap men in the top of the list) - So this category don't like authority over men? What's in their mind? Or izit the foreign ATM explanation?

Lastly, I'm always curious to find out why their parents have no qualms over letting their daughters work in the sex trade, too?

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Something that has been puzzling me; can you elaborate on why the underlining statement is the reason that the b/fs have no qualms about letting their girls work in MPs?

What exactly do women want in a relationship？This would be the first question you need to ask yourself.

Too often, men who are poor jump to the conclusion that women are materialistic. This, of course, is one way of looking away from your personal failure by attributing blame on the object of your pursuit. If women are materialistic at heart, 80% of the male population anywhere in the world will not be able to get married. How many of us are really rich ? Being rich is a bonus, but wealth has never been the center of focus in women when it comes to romance. Bear this in mind if you want to understand women. Statistics don't lie.

So what do women want ? It's either they want money or they want romance. Money and romance are 2 different directions and they often meet in a relationship. But that is not to say that the romance encompasses money or vice-versa. They are mutually exclusive. Money has never been a part of romance.

The issue of authority exists within the ambit of romance. It's mother nature for women to feel they 'own' the object of their romance, and you don't gain that sense of ownership unless you have authority over your object, and when you have successfully gained authority over your object, your object then becomes your subject.

Authority doesn't exist in a vacuum. More often than not, authority is bought (or bribed). A mother has authority over her baby because she provides milk. When the baby becomes an adolescent, it's pocket money that is the root of that authority. Eventually when the baby becomes a full adult and breaks away from the family, the authority fizzles out.

Women buy authority in a romance with sex and money. When a man pursues a woman, he is often encouraged to be 'thick-skinned'. Now, 'thick-skinned' is actually suppressing your pride; it's giving up ownership of your dignity, albeit partially. Women get a tremendous kick from witnessing men practically crawling on their bended knees as it offers women a sense of value, and most importantly, authority over men. At this point, women are buying authority with sex. It's the prospect of sexual gratification that accounts for the willingness of men to suppress their pride (more correctly, dignity).

And you and I know what happens when this line is crossed. Once a man has slept with a woman, the entire landscape of the relationship changes. Sex continues to exist as a form of control mechanism, and it will not be as effective as before. Money must now step it to complement the control mechanism.

Second, it's common to get the excuse that thai men are "playboy" or "lazy", as such these thai girls seek/prefer foreigners. (and I think there's a preferred order with Jap men in the top of the list) - So this category don't like authority over men? What's in their mind? Or izit the foreign ATM explanation?

Money and romance don't mix. Money has no place in a woman's wonderland called Romance. Instead, the woman will use the money she obtained to fund a romance elsewhere.

Lastly, I'm always curious to find out why their parents have no qualms over letting their daughters work in the sex trade, too?

It's upbringing that is the core of the problem, and with that you've just touched the nerve of problem - culture. We are Chinese, and we often use Chinese culture to interpret other cultures. In Thailand, they don't have Confucius or Mencius. In Thailand, 笑貧不笑娼．

[MaMister]

Bro Peter north.... May I ask how to say 随缘 and 分手 in thai?

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

Something that has been puzzling me; can you elaborate on why the underlining statement is the reason that the b/fs have no qualms about letting their girls work in MPs?

I just realized that I went at length to explain the statement underlined without touching on the mindset of the b/fs. I believe this is the thing that puzzles you.

It boils down to culture. We, Singapore men, tend to treat women too nicely. It's our upbringing, not to mention the powerful Women's Charter. You touch a woman at the wrong place, you get caned. So in Singapore, women are treated like Goddess.

Thai men treat women like objects. For the Thais, money is the most important. It's easier to find women than money. When the Thai society invented the term 'gig', you know the society has gone rotten.

The Thai men don't treat women that seriously. They will gladly 'sacrifice' one g/f for money, and use her money to gamble, buy drinks and motorbikes. They will not be short of women when they've money.

In short, for the Thai men, when there is money there is pride. Living off women is not a shame for them. But in order live off women, you've to give back something, right ?

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

In short, for the Thai men, when there is money there is pride. Living off women is not a shame for them. But in order live off women, you've to give back something, right ?

I guess u meant a small portion of Thai men in the whole Thailand.

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by MaMister

Bro Peter north.... May I ask how to say 随缘 and 分手 in thai?

Bro, you must first understand not every word in Chinese has a direct or appropriate translation in Thai. I'd even say Chinese is a very powerful language, and that much cannot be expected of Thai language.

随缘 = ตาม พรหมลิขิต = dtam promlikit
分手 = เลิก กัน = lerk gan

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

It's upbringing that is the core of the problem, and with that you've just touched the nerve of problem - culture. We are Chinese, and we often use Chinese culture to interpret other cultures.

Okie, I should have known...

So it's all a matter of perspective. Need to see their world putting on their glasses

Thanks mate

[MaMister]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

Bro, you must first understand not every word in Chinese has a direct or appropriate translation in Thai. I'd even say Chinese is a very powerful language, and that much cannot be expected of Thai language.

随缘 = ตาม พรหมลิขิต = dtam promlikit
分手 = เลิก กัน = lerk gan

Thanks bro... No wonder someone told me " liao lerk gan na"...

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by MaMister

Thanks bro... No wonder someone told me " liao lerk gan na"...

Shouldn't it be 'lerk gan liao na' ?

Anyway, I learn all my stuff from Learning Thai the Easy Way, so it's quite an effective website if you show enough patience.

[Peter_North]

I need some help.

Does anyone know of a convenient way to access the New Immigration Complex at Chaeng Wattana ? My TR is due for extension.

[hbk88]

any bros understand thai? or any thai translation service? just wanna assure the girl is cheating me

would really appericiate if any bros could pm me, we talk in msn . . .

[MaMister]

Originally Posted by hbk88

any bros understand thai? or any thai translation service? just wanna assure the girl is cheating me

would really appericiate if any bros could pm me, we talk in msn . . .

Ask here lah... here got maybe here got many "high hand" you will never know...

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by MaMister

Ask here lah... here got maybe here got many "high hand" you will never know...

"high hand" is a vocabulary of the past. The popular one is "high hand high hand high high hand".

[<<totally>>]

I can only say from my experiences based on my ex and currently second 'wife'. Thai gals gots lots of tricks. Money is like KY ensuring all is running correctly. Once no KY....u can expect many issues to pop out leading to one result that is 'game over'. To continued insert tokens....
Remember one thing that is ... how f up is the mum...but the kid is innocent. Milk money must tt as the kid is also part of ur wealth. Spot checks must be done where now and there and never let them know how much you are able to earn. I can say...it is very tiring as the time get longer.

[Steadyman1]

Originally Posted by <<totally>>

To continued insert tokens....

You can't fill up this 无地洞...