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Hi , yes I am doing 2 job , one is a normal day job and also some side job . I don wanna mention my job to protect my self and others .
I stay in normal hdb in kim tian road , my father is a hawker my mum is helping her. I also have a big brother who is many year older than me.
I only drive a second hand lancer before . And now no more so abit free on cash.
I don make $6k or 10k but I am not a big spender . I cheong daily yes but always share with friend on Martell . Only occasion open when my friend birthday. I give $30 tips to girl when I Cheong .
I give her $2k not here to yaya I rich . I also need to work for a living. But now no car already and no go Cheong much because of her so can offer her $2k.
If next time anything happen I will struggle also. But as for now I still ok.
It does not matter to us really! What's important is that you know well what you are doing and what you can afford..if from what you say you do not have any substantial savings then giving a VB 2k per month while your future is in doubt sounds silly... really
But as the saying goes, when you're in it, you would think nothing is wrong. The impact will hit you when you're out of it...but then again, who are we to judge your relationship with her for we do not know anything about her.
It would be prudent to start saving up for yourself and your future...this i can say for sure you have to start...somewhere somehow....who knows when you try to cut down on the money, you will then see the REAL gal! - it can be good and only good:
Good - she understands that you want to save up....maybe you can tell her for the wedding for both of you or some well-intentioned goals. If she understands and stand by you and accepts it. Then, you could very well have a gal who is ready to go thru thick and thin with you for the person that you are and will support your decisions...
BETTER - she says ok but then starts to get busy, day by day. Lazy to meet you, must earn money etc etc. You know all the signs and symtoms right. Then you'll know that all along you've been taken for a ride. Well, so be it! this can only be for the better no?
The ball in in your court....remember this!
Good luck!
~Vi wa yeu a nen e chap nhan la nguoi thu 3.Nhung co ai hieu duoc noi kho va noi dau cua nguoi thu 3 vi nguoi ta chi nghi nguoi thu 3 la nguoi co toi.minh bun vi minh la nguoi da roi vao hoan canh nay,suy nghi rat nhieu,moi dem k the ngu!~
It does not matter to us really! What's important is that you know well what you are doing and what you can afford..if from what you say you do not have any substantial savings then giving a VB 2k per month while your future is in doubt sounds silly... really
But as the saying goes, when you're in it, you would think nothing is wrong. The impact will hit you when you're out of it...but then again, who are we to judge your relationship with her for we do not know anything about her.
It would be prudent to start saving up for yourself and your future...this i can say for sure you have to start...somewhere somehow....who knows when you try to cut down on the money, you will then see the REAL gal! - it can be good and only good:
Good - she understands that you want to save up....maybe you can tell her for the wedding for both of you or some well-intentioned goals. If she understands and stand by you and accepts it. Then, you could very well have a gal who is ready to go thru thick and thin with you for the person that you are and will support your decisions...
BETTER - she says ok but then starts to get busy, day by day. Lazy to meet you, must earn money etc etc. You know all the signs and symtoms right. Then you'll know that all along you've been taken for a ride. Well, so be it! this can only be for the better no?
The ball in in your court....remember this!
Good luck!
Well Said!
Ah wong, the GRANDMASTER has spoken! heed his advise!
weekly off pass? wait long long loh.. that already asked me why didnt bring her along....
you can bring your bx along if you want... then we sit koiptiam only
tell her you watch soccer and will be very concentrated on it... you don't her to be bored sitting beside do nothing.
It does not matter to us really! What's important is that you know well what you are doing and what you can afford..if from what you say you do not have any substantial savings then giving a VB 2k per month while your future is in doubt sounds silly... really
But as the saying goes, when you're in it, you would think nothing is wrong. The impact will hit you when you're out of it...but then again, who are we to judge your relationship with her for we do not know anything about her.
It would be prudent to start saving up for yourself and your future...this i can say for sure you have to start...somewhere somehow....who knows when you try to cut down on the money, you will then see the REAL gal! - it can be good and only good:
Good - she understands that you want to save up....maybe you can tell her for the wedding for both of you or some well-intentioned goals. If she understands and stand by you and accepts it. Then, you could very well have a gal who is ready to go thru thick and thin with you for the person that you are and will support your decisions...
BETTER - she says ok but then starts to get busy, day by day. Lazy to meet you, must earn money etc etc. You know all the signs and symtoms right. Then you'll know that all along you've been taken for a ride. Well, so be it! this can only be for the better no?
The ball in in your court....remember this!
Good luck!
So you are the grand master . thanks for advising .
We meet everyday twice for the whole week , We did not talk about money and sometime i ask her how is her sales . She say don need to ask her she don like to say . Yesterday there is old customer jio her go clark quey thai disco but she rejected because she know i might be upset . She meet me instead , She told me last time she went out with him he give her $200 for 2 hour for acompany . I ask her to go since he so nice (of course i think diff) she say NVM she told me last time the customer did ask her go ON but she rejected . when we are eating somewhere ard her working places the customer went in mask to look for her. She receieved his sms and i ask her go back mask again don worry me But did tell me to wait for her somewhere .
I guess the customer is a Big fish , my girl just went in about 20min and he give her $50 for tips. After that i send her home and chat for 1 hour plus and i go home . So Far So good i also hope we can end up together, I hope but will not think too far also.
I did have saving But after i known her i i cannot save any money also . I will never touch my saving unless really we marry and for the wedding dinner . i planning to joint the account with my mother in case i kana KC till lost sence.
Bro TS, i am not judging since we r all cheongsters n been there, and still doing it!
May I politely ask- why not with a comfy income n spare 2k monthly, get a proper gf ( n cheong normally, f and go)...
Bro i think of all this before at first like all F & Go but haiz kana spell already. No choices bro , i know i can do many things and F many diff gal in a month but inside already.
If she don do anything wrong to me and really serious about me and of course not asking many money outside my mean i still will take care and support her . But pls don tell me Father , mother sick or who passed away need money all this rubbish execuses i will say sorry to her. So far No and also really never ask me for money only treat her eat and buy some cheap ear ring for work.
i am the one who offer her money not to work in singapore . But she only recieved onces and told me she worry me because i am changing jobs (that period 3 weeks not working and was in HCM with her) i told her i can still give her the money but she alway told me she can work ask me don worry her .
She alway know that she can trust me because i never lie to her anything and she did told me she trust me alot not like others boy talk only .
So you are the grand master . thanks for advising .
....I guess the customer is a Big fish , my girl just went in about 20min and he give her $50 for tips. After that i send her home and chat for 1 hour plus and i go home . So Far So good i also hope we can end up together, I hope but will not think too far also.
I did have saving But after i known her i i cannot save any money also . I will never touch my saving unless really we marry and for the wedding dinner . i planning to joint the account with my mother in case i kana KC till lost sence.
ermmm, no grandmaster la...just that i've been in it earlier and have seen and experienced more in this realm...that's all...
As for customer big fish or small fish not impt..Anyway, giving $50 tips doesn't mean he's big fish just as giving $20 tips doesn't mean the person is poor as well....If your thinking is correct then all customers that give $50 at KTV (the norm) are big fishes??...then those that go Las Vegas/Tianamen where tips are $200-$300 are killer whales???
Just know that its none of your business anyway...most impt is whether end day are you the one in her heart? I am concerned that your topics are not about how you can work together to build a future but about her daily work affairs..which has no value in this type of relationship....
Well, even if you meet up 7 days a week with her, can you be sure that nothing goes on when your back home?
i am not trying to discourage you or anything but you have to know the fundamental reason for her to be here working or rather she should be able to tell you that...
granted she has her worries and problems but then again who? which gal? that come here to work doesn't in the first place? I do know of some that are damn materialistic and are here for the quick money yes... but majority of them have problems and they are mostly the same....which explains why many bros in here will tell you "not again??!!" or "same story la" not because they wanna discourage you or put you down or something...its the facts!
Now since everyone has problems right? So whats the difference? The difference is does your gal know what she is after? is there an objective that after being reached then she can stop work and settle down with you?
If the answer is yes then good for you....maybe things might work out after all....then you need to work together and see how to reach it together and how long it'll take....what's the deal?
but if the answer is no or dunno then ....
You get what i mean? If she does not even know what she wants and she does not know how things are going to end up for her in her life, do you think you can enter her life and she will allow you to add to her headache?
Actually I have successfully "buried" my previous thread a long time ago cos i reckon it's getting too many unnecessary attention but I think it might help you somehow....go take a look thru and see if you can get something out of it... link here==>My Thread
~Vi wa yeu a nen e chap nhan la nguoi thu 3.Nhung co ai hieu duoc noi kho va noi dau cua nguoi thu 3 vi nguoi ta chi nghi nguoi thu 3 la nguoi co toi.minh bun vi minh la nguoi da roi vao hoan canh nay,suy nghi rat nhieu,moi dem k the ngu!~
you can bring your bx along if you want... then we sit koiptiam only
tell her you watch soccer and will be very concentrated on it... you don't her to be bored sitting beside do nothing.
This is what i'm afraid, she will be bored and wanting to go home after half time. If bring her go 13, worst, she will say: with so many con gai here r u sure u guys only watch soccer?
ermmm, no grandmaster la...just that i've been in it earlier and have seen and experienced more in this realm...that's all...
As for customer big fish or small fish not impt..Anyway, giving $50 tips doesn't mean he's big fish just as giving $20 tips doesn't mean the person is poor as well....If your thinking is correct then all customers that give $50 at KTV (the norm) are big fishes??...then those that go Las Vegas/Tianamen where tips are $200-$300 are killer whales???
Just know that its none of your business anyway...most impt is whether end day are you the one in her heart? I am concerned that your topics are not about how you can work together to build a future but about her daily work affairs..which has no value in this type of relationship....
Well, even if you meet up 7 days a week with her, can you be sure that nothing goes on when your back home?
i am not trying to discourage you or anything but you have to know the fundamental reason for her to be here working or rather she should be able to tell you that...
granted she has her worries and problems but then again who? which gal? that come here to work doesn't in the first place? I do know of some that are damn materialistic and are here for the quick money yes... but majority of them have problems and they are mostly the same....which explains why many bros in here will tell you "not again??!!" or "same story la" not because they wanna discourage you or put you down or something...its the facts!
Now since everyone has problems right? So whats the difference? The difference is does your gal know what she is after? is there an objective that after being reached then she can stop work and settle down with you?
If the answer is yes then good for you....maybe things might work out after all....then you need to work together and see how to reach it together and how long it'll take....what's the deal?
but if the answer is no or dunno then ....
You get what i mean? If she does not even know what she wants and she does not know how things are going to end up for her in her life, do you think you can enter her life and she will allow you to add to her headache?
Actually I have successfully "buried" my previous thread a long time ago cos i reckon it's getting too many unnecessary attention but I think it might help you somehow....go take a look thru and see if you can get something out of it... link here==>My Thread
See told u grandmaster liao u no believe me, u force him to 出绝招.
She alway know that she can trust me because i never lie to her anything and she did told me she trust me alot not like others boy talk only .
continue to gain her trust... never let her catch you lying even once. Else everything will goes down the drain and you can go find another new love liao
This is what i'm afraid, she will be bored and wanting to go home after half time. If bring her go 13, worst, she will say: with so many con gai here r u sure u guys only watch soccer?
if she come , we will only go kopitiam no con gai ard...bring her one time and when she knws it is boring , she wun want to follow a second time...
Bro i think of all this before at first like all F & Go but haiz kana spell already. No choices bro , i know i can do many things and F many diff gal in a month but inside already.
If she don do anything wrong to me and really serious about me and of course not asking many money outside my mean i still will take care and support her . But pls don tell me Father , mother sick or who passed away need money all this rubbish execuses i will say sorry to her. So far No and also really never ask me for money only treat her eat and buy some cheap ear ring for work.
i am the one who offer her money not to work in singapore . But she only recieved onces and told me she worry me because i am changing jobs (that period 3 weeks not working and was in HCM with her) i told her i can still give her the money but she alway told me she can work ask me don worry her .
She alway know that she can trust me because i never lie to her anything and she did told me she trust me alot not like others boy talk only .
understand and know her objective..likewise , you must also know your objective...key thing is to communicate and learn to understand and build up trust...
if she come , we will only go kopitiam no con gai ard...bring her one time and when she knws it is boring , she wun want to follow a second time...
we will sacrifice one time for you...
sacrific what now? Its all 2:45am matched now...
again, I will still watch the england match and go straight to work.. but in between I will jalan jalan at 24..
sacrific what now? Its all 2:45am matched now...
again, I will still watch the england match and go straight to work.. but in between I will jalan jalan at 24..