Marrying A Thai ger

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by rapebill

will a Thai wife ignore her husband's wishes to be a FL (again), in order to feed her family?
any advice to change her thinking, will having children help?

2 ways to see it. is either the husband not giving her enough money or enough money to take care her family. then u stand a chance ur girl will go work again.

or

she want more $$ n think u cant give her what she want. same as no1 but just want more $$$.

so u decide whether to be with her or not to be with. if she really love u she wont go do it. that what i seen so far. unless u run house then maybe bcos of that she wanna go work or do unfaithful things to u.

to change a thai girl thinking LOL forget it bro. it wont work

got children of course some how will affect but do u think she so stupid to tie herself down if she wanna earn $$$. so think again bro. it not good to do that n later back fire.

[parn_t]

Bros,

having a thai wife may spell more problems and problems.
u need to take care of endless of her families members and the members keep increasing. It's happen to one of my close friend.

one moment is father sick, uncle fall down, house need to repair, cow sick, .... the financial requirement/payment seem endless like a bottomless pit. Unless you had a bottomless money pot. that is ok. if not, just play n forget it!

Lastly, most thai gals will care for her own family than u.
they are willing to give up u for their family.

if decent gal, maybe things will be different but it is a question of your ability in finance & making things happen. but, chances are very slim. I hardly seen any of my friends end up well with a thai gal. most ended up in debt and facing more problem.

even angmo kana these before.
I remember one angmo posted his experience in the net.
they only want $$$$

[linda tan]

SOUND THAI MAI MEE KOON DEE!

[yinyang]

Originally Posted by xilverzap

...There are hardworking thai men too.
..mindset of these guys are truly simple. I have a female in the house to FEED me. Let it be so.. I relax and fool around and when broke, go back to mama.. surely sister will pity mama and then i can get $$ too. The sister on the other hand, lan lan, give mama $$$ from where?? (YOU) or any other sources she can find by sacrificing themselves to the body trade.
No matter how you look at it. Like bros here say, It's THEIR FAMILY 1st before HUSBAND.
..But best of luck to all bros here venturing out to have thai future partners or any nationality partners.. You will go into cultural shock

Culture shock cuts both ways. Generalisation of thai men as layabouts reliant on females in family to scrap by is unfortunately, not off the mark.

Add other observation that there are so many single mothers (married or otherwise) looking after kids. And it's the gal's mom who help out looking after. Fathers in absentia?

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by yinyang

Culture shock cuts both ways. Generalisation of thai men as layabouts reliant on females in family to scrap by is unfortunately, not off the mark.

Add other observation that there are so many single mothers (married or otherwise) looking after kids. And it's the gal's mom who help out looking after. Fathers in absentia?

yea bro culture shock are both way. pple cannot accept how thai think n thai cannot accept how we think also.

this kind of relationship sometime hard to maintain especially the girl come from a villiage.

decent girl also have their problem. their thinking also diff. rich family girls also think very diff. i have a friend who marry a rich thai girl. the wife want her daughter to be a thai. she feel that our local girls are much wild n not graceful at all.

she want her daughter to be well groom n have a status. not just any ordinary pple.

anyway is to each his or her own. we cant force them to change. the culture are make in such way for hundred of yrs. so it kind of hard to change anyway.

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by linda tan

SOUND THAI MAI MEE KOON DEE!

mai chai na mai chai khonthai mai dee na.

it all the same if u marry girls outside singapore such as cambodia, laos, those 3rd world country. their thinking are confirm diff from us.

just that most of the story we been hearing are thais.

[theUnforgotten]

Originally Posted by yinyang

Culture shock cuts both ways. Generalisation of thai men as layabouts reliant on females in family to scrap by is unfortunately, not off the mark.

Add other observation that there are so many single mothers (married or otherwise) looking after kids. And it's the gal's mom who help out looking after. Fathers in absentia?

Agreed, btw I find that single parenthood is quite prevalent in Thailand. Though as this is still very much Asian society , it's not quite out in the open evident for most to see or spot.

But this generalisation also depends on which social strata that most of us here in the forum , will know women. Though these issues here tend to be observed from gals of similar social strata from various asian countries too ( e.g. Vietnam , PRC, indonesia , Philippines)

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by parn_t

even angmo kana these before.
I remember one angmo posted his experience in the net.
they only want $$$$

angmo sad to said been living in a fantasy world or should i said fantasy asia. they think asia woman are far better then their own angmo girls. why cos asia girls to them is the girls will take care husband, love them and give them attention blah blah blah. they feel more like a man.

lol sad to said singapore men are also sama sama in general.

i also hear alot n see alot of website where angmo confess that he got cheated by their girls. blah blah blah. just too bad i hear until sian.

just give u 1 example. Last apr i went to CNX to attend my bro wedding. on my way to Chiangrai. i transit to bkk b4 flying to CEI. i was in the airport waiting for my connectiing flight.

feeling hungry i went to have a bite. in the resturant i saw a cute thai young girl think should be ard 21 to 23 together with a old angmo about 50 plus. they are couple as we know.

hold hand, kiss n hug. they were eating there too. i was sitting opps them. i was looking at the girl n then she notice i have been looking at her. i smile back at her n she smile back.

what happen next. while the angmo not looking at her she turn to me n smile. we keep looking at each other till her siao aye notices it. she then pretend to take care of him, give him some voodoo spell lol n he ok liao.

then she bcome more tactful n slowly turn her head n smile again. then i hint her go out of the resturant go near the toilet so we can talk. u know what she really do that. she went to toilet n try to find me but cant find me cos i was at the sign board lol so cant see me. bo bian after that her siao aye come. then i lost my chance getting her no.

see many of this shit. u think the thai girl like angmo for what. they prefer young guy then old guy. most of them prefer $$$ then lj lol of course got lj better can song. but not all girls look $$ as important but we cannot said no $$$ mean forever together. only till the day u die then u said she with u forever.

one of my bud stay in thailand for 12 yrs told me story about angmo marry in his hometown. got cheated also. angmo hold 2 to 3 days wedding spend alot buying house n blah blah blah, later go back girl bring another guy come else bring her thai bf stay her house.

Just remember No Money No Honey. there is no fairly tale.................

[xilverzap]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

then i hint her go out of the resturant go near the toilet so we can talk. u know what she really do that. she went to toilet n try to find me but cant find me cos i was at the sign board lol so cant see me. bo bian after that her siao aye come. then i lost my chance getting her no.

WA.. you got this kind of charm and you did not meet her at the toilet. Wa lau.. you ah.. si beh mei yo yong leh. You hide at the sign board for what?? You scared kena humtam by the old amg mo ah?? hahahahaha

Then never hear you say anything like tat at the wedding somemore. This kind of story must tell us mah.. Then we can laugh at you more.. hahahaha.. Kidding lah....

Anyway.. Marrying a Thai girl does have MANY MANY things that will entail and will eventually lead to either a very meaningful family life or very sad depressing life.. It all depends on YOU and THE GIRL. I do know of some happily married Singapore guys with their thai wives, now with children and all. And then again there are some who cant make it in the long run....

So.. to each his own when it comes to marrying a thai wife. No one can give you the best advice to do what is right or not. But only can wish all the best of luck when you decide to go into 1.

Xilver

[xilverzap]

Originally Posted by theUnforgotten

Agreed, btw I find that single parenthood is quite prevalent in Thailand. Though as this is still very much Asian society , it's not quite out in the open evident for most to see or spot.

But this generalisation also depends on which social strata that most of us here in the forum , will know women. Though these issues here tend to be observed from gals of similar social strata from various asian countries too ( e.g. Vietnam , PRC, indonesia , Philippines)

I agree with you that single parenthood is quite prevalent in Thailand. Maybe its due to lack of education in some sense. They seem to have the "happy go lucky" attitude and the "romantic drama" feelings that they embrace so much.

Just look at the way they follow their everyday "la korn" (tv serials), a lot of emotions are involved for them that they forget that it is actually the REEL world and not the REAL world. So, they loosen up themselves and get pregnant by the "nice at first" thai men and ending up being dumped and alone in the end.

You are also correct to say that these applies mostly to these kind of social strata in all the countries you mentioned. Note that these countries' women are generally still in the "i must serve my husband" thinking.. There are others as well. Korea is also one although the country is more upper class.

Xilver

[xilverzap]

Originally Posted by yinyang

Culture shock cuts both ways. Generalisation of thai men as layabouts reliant on females in family to scrap by is unfortunately, not off the mark.

Add other observation that there are so many single mothers (married or otherwise) looking after kids. And it's the gal's mom who help out looking after. Fathers in absentia?

Yes, while I agree that culture shock cuts both ways. It is, however, WE that try and understand and adjust to this shock and try to accept it as much as we can. We dont generally see THEM doing the same. hahaha

On your other point, the fathers are not NOT around. But they was once another lazy thai man that became another lazy thai father?? Hahaha.. the cycle continues.....

Like pussyman said, they also have 50plus yr old WOMEN "lianging" 30plus yr old MAN.. You think leh? In the end, who suffer??? The girls and their potential walking "Automated Teller Machine". hahahahhaa

xilver

[xilverzap]

Originally Posted by rapebill

will a Thai wife ignore her husband's wishes to be a FL (again), in order to feed her family?
any advice to change her thinking, will having children help?

I dont think ANY women who are already married would want to go back to the trade la.. BUT if they do, it would not be out of choice.

Advice to change their thinking? Some people say a leopard will never change its spots... If they had been a FL before, then they KNOW it is the easiest and fastest way to get $$$.

Having children would not help but make the the issue worse, cos now not only family need $$$ but children also need $$$ to eat.. so how???


xilver

[xilverzap]

Originally Posted by linda tan

SOUND THAI MAI MEE KOON DEE!

Its not khon thai mai dee.. Its just that there are differences in the way they think and the way we think. Thats all.

We say it is NOT RIGHT and NO GOOD. They say it is Normal and a Necessity or a survival issue.

Generally, khon thais are still nice la.. just they have more NEEDS ($$$) then us and priorities are different from us. That's all..

xilver

[FL Lover]

I agreed with some of the bros. Marrying a Thai ger is like betting on 4-D. Out of so many chances, you will only strike first prize once in a blue moon. Many of my friends got thai ger...started off with the girls asking to help them buy things and later moved on to helping them to send $$ back.... Got dumped by the gers when they cant afford to send any $$ or when they discovered their gers are seeing other mens behnid their back.

It is not a matter of sending enough $$. Their society (Thai) and culture is different from us. To them, it is natural for the guys to take CARE OF EVERYTHING which include $$ wise. To them, have fun first then suffer later is the norm. Also marrying a thai ger, you properly have to bear wtih the gossiping from yor friends, relatives and family. Our local impression about thai ger is very jiat lat. Most of the thai ger are in the flesh trade even for though working in office. They do part time in the night as well.

Of course I am not saying all thai gers are bad but to get a good catch... you must really have the lady luck and the commitment to maintain it provided your thai ger understand yout finanical status. You must be really to forget all her past. You must be willing to support her finanically.

Chances are there but are you willing to take the chance to try it out? If you are worried, moved on to a better one. Y stick to the thai ger and regret later and be a sad FxxKer.

FYI. I was once a sad fxxker but now I am happily married...for 6 yrs with my kids. Lucky for me, I made the right decisions at that pt.

[theUnforgotten]

Originally Posted by xilverzap

Generally, khon thais are still nice la.. just they have more NEEDS ($$$) then us and priorities are different from us. That's all..

xilver

Yes, But here in Sg too , they have needs too ( Prada , mango , River island)

But having a r/s with any woman anywhere has it's pitfalls ,it depends on managing one's expectations. Communication is key too ,One must draw the "lines" clearly, on what is acceptable or what is not.

To get good catch , also depends on self too . sometimes in thailand the reason why there's so many absent fathers, cos too many "temptations" abound