Flirting wife or gf

[NoNameNoNothing]

Wife or girlfriend, makes no difference. TS did not say extent of sms or behaviour so we cannot be sure what he means. "I like your hair" "I like you" and so on are common flirts. Does it mean anything? It is better to talk it out and to make sure. No need for drama of getting friend to tackle or PI. Just ask, if answer is acceptable, so be it, if not, it will be choice of "so be it" and live with it or to break. Just my 2 cents worth.

[JIU XING]

Originally Posted by ken24

Hi all samster, if u found out ur wife or gf is flirting sms or even meet the guy wat will u do?would like to hear all ur comments.

burn her alive!!

[see see only]

Originally Posted by JIU XING

burn her alive!!

OBJECTION

Hey Bro JX, relax lah ...

We sincerely do not wish to see headline like "Bf burned gf alive for flirting with other man"

[BlackerKnighter]

Originally Posted by see see only

Last time the saying is : “my lau gong work so hard outside , let him go steal eat outside a bit – me just close one eye lor” now they think otherwise

Me ???? as long she comes home (safely), I act blur

Haha yeah itz true..majority of women these days oso slogging out there to earn their own keep so the old manly excuse of "I put bacon on the table mean I entitled to my hypocritical double standard' juz doesnt cut the meat liao.

Ya lar whether its innocent flirting or having hot backbreaking sex in a motel with a colleague, if you tao chiak once in the while but think you still know where to draw the line n expect close one eye on partner end oso should extend the same liberty to ur tsa bor lang in reciprocity n appreciation mah.

Maybe just maybe..what you donch know won't kill you. Not least in the so tsialat a manner!? hahaha! Blessed are the foolishly ignorant or izit?

And donch worri about BroJX, its his usual brand of dark humor kekeke!

Bro JX if you tio soot until -ve and spawn new nick, lemme know hor..Upz for sure!

[tommy29sg]

well, nowadays girls are more daring liao. they intend to have equal rights... so this is one of the things they want equal...

next time when they earn more... they will start to stray.. hehe...

anyway.. i can understand how it feels... painful, heart-breaking, and sleepless nites... and wild imaginations...

[SneakyBastard]

Well, bros & sisters, I am in the same boat. Except that I know for a fact (as opposed to just suspecting) that my wife is chatting up other guys.

She even knows that I know. I know she chats with them with an eye to sleep with them. After a few late nights and some subsequent interrogation, she has admitted to 2 episodes with 1 guy. But I believe it's far more than that...

Anyway I know she's not been eating out for the past 2 weeks (at least), but she's definately been chatting with people, and not being completely truthful about her whereabouts.

It's easy to say divorce, but there are many logistical & practical reasons not to be hasty about that now. Firstly, we've had the flat for less than 5 yes, and I want to at least get my eldest child in the school of my choice. It's a very hot school so I wanna do everything I can to make sure she gets in.

I've actually suggested "chatting together" with her online friends and, if she wants to meet up, "meet together". She wasn't so keen on it...

If you read my previous posts, I'm no angel myself, and the reasons she is doing these things are pretty much as a reaction to the hurt & betrayal I caused her. But I think it's coming to a point where it will get out of hand...

I'm practically suggesting threesomes with her "other friends" in order to placate her & keep an eye on her at the same time...

So how, what do you guys think I should do?

(TS, sorry to hijack ur thread)

[see see only]

Originally Posted by SneakyBastard

I'm practically suggesting threesomes with her "other friends" in order to placate her & keep an eye on her at the same time...

So how, what do you guys think I should do?

(TS, sorry to hijack ur thread)

Bro SneakyBastard,

me salute you man ... you can tahan? ... i think you love your wifey very much.

As for me, the most I can do, is act blur and dont go find out ... IF you ask me - what will i do if i found out - me will also be overwhelmed by the situation

I guessed i will continue to act blur ..... rather then go face it with her ... 3-some somemore U ARE THE BEST LAO GONG man

[NewMike1304k]

Originally Posted by SneakyBastard

Well, bros & sisters, I am in the same boat. Except that I know for a fact (as opposed to just suspecting) that my wife is chatting up other guys.

She even knows that I know. I know she chats with them with an eye to sleep with them. After a few late nights and some subsequent interrogation, she has admitted to 2 episodes with 1 guy. But I believe it's far more than that...

Anyway I know she's not been eating out for the past 2 weeks (at least), but she's definately been chatting with people, and not being completely truthful about her whereabouts.

It's easy to say divorce, but there are many logistical & practical reasons not to be hasty about that now. Firstly, we've had the flat for less than 5 yes, and I want to at least get my eldest child in the school of my choice. It's a very hot school so I wanna do everything I can to make sure she gets in.

I've actually suggested "chatting together" with her online friends and, if she wants to meet up, "meet together". She wasn't so keen on it...

If you read my previous posts, I'm no angel myself, and the reasons she is doing these things are pretty much as a reaction to the hurt & betrayal I caused her. But I think it's coming to a point where it will get out of hand...

I'm practically suggesting threesomes with her "other friends" in order to placate her & keep an eye on her at the same time...

So how, what do you guys think I should do?

(TS, sorry to hijack ur thread)

Dear Bro Sneaky Bastard,

You present a rather unique situation. But let me ask you this question... Do you still love your wife and want to make the marriage last? Although kids are part of the equation, lets not bring them in first. So you were a naughty bastard once and your wife is now having the knee jerk reaction. If your answer to my question is yes, then please sit her down and speak to her. Tell her that the nonsense is now over and it is time to look forward and work towards having a happy family again. Tell her that though the trust shared has now been broken, tit for tat and going back to the past will not solve anything. Tell her to work towards the future where your child will go to the school you want and both of you will be there for her graduation and let this be the uniting and binding light.

I have always said that a vase once broken cannot be repaired and it will never be the same. But it can still be a beautiful vase. This is the same for TS too.

[Suckmedry]

pity the new guy... wear ur old shoe... the girl also no good la... if she is true to u, she wont do all these things...

[SneakyBastard]

Originally Posted by see see only

Bro SneakyBastard,

me salute you man ... you can tahan? ... i think you love your wifey very much.

As for me, the most I can do, is act blur and dont go find out ... IF you ask me - what will i do if i found out - me will also be overwhelmed by the situation

I guessed i will continue to act blur ..... rather then go face it with her ... 3-some somemore U ARE THE BEST LAO GONG man

Originally Posted by NewMike1304k

Dear Bro Sneaky Bastard,

You present a rather unique situation. But let me ask you this question... Do you still love your wife and want to make the marriage last? Although kids are part of the equation, lets not bring them in first. So you were a naughty bastard once and your wife is now having the knee jerk reaction. If your answer to my question is yes, then please sit her down and speak to her. Tell her that the nonsense is now over and it is time to look forward and work towards having a happy family again. Tell her that though the trust shared has now been broken, tit for tat and going back to the past will not solve anything. Tell her to work towards the future where your child will go to the school you want and both of you will be there for her graduation and let this be the uniting and binding light.

I have always said that a vase once broken cannot be repaired and it will never be the same. But it can still be a beautiful vase. This is the same for TS too.

Originally Posted by Suckmedry

pity the new guy... wear ur old shoe... the girl also no good la... if she is true to u, she wont do all these things...

Well, guys, I will admit to being somewhat nonplussed initially, but I've always had a threesome/ group fantasy, so if that fantasy can be helped along, why not?

This is my dick talking. Now my other head says: I don't really know if I still really truly do love her, or how much. All I know is I want to do everything I can to make sure my kids are not detrimentally affected by any of our adults' actions. If that means closing an eye (or both) while my wife is screwing around, then so be it. Anyway, I won't let it go on without getting some action myself.

And, once I've collected enough data about the guy(s) she's with...... (I'll let your imagination take over here)

And yes, I did have a very frank & candid heart-to-heart talk with her, telling her we should both stop, revenge isn't going to get her anywhere, etc; She says she kinds likes being a slut now, and blames me for pushing her into it, and keeps blaming me for the situation we're in now.

My response: Yes, it all started with me, that is true, and I can accept that her first cheating experience was a knee-jerk reaction to my actions, but the subsequent ones? At what point does one stop blaming others and start accepting responsibility for one's own actions?

Anyway, we now have an agreement that some of you guys might find unsettling. If we're going out with another party, we are just going to inform each other. No more hiding and lies. We won't have to waste time and energy spying on each other and guessing each others' movements. When she want to spend time with her "friends", I'll go for a massage, or an FL. Whatever suits my time & budget. Eventually, I'll get myself a gf. The reason I didn't get one earlier was precisely because I didn't want emotional baggage.

As long as the kids are cared for, and we don't bring our shit home, don't give each other some disease, I think we should be fine.

Oh well. Life is strange, ain't it?

[Rub&Buah]

Truth Love belong to each other & last till the end no matter what happen..Be it betrayal,lies.problem++ etc.After going thru all the shit & if u still be together,thats true love.

But..Love cannot survive on love itself..Weight your level of acceptance.I understand your feeling.Hope the best for u bro..

[tommy29sg]

there is definitely no way for my wife, myself and another guy/women for a threesome...
on sexcond thot... if the 3rd person is a woman... why not... haha

Well.. even when we try to be blurr about it... it will still hurts us like a knife piercing through our heart. Why we didn't think about the other party? its more because we are selfish by nature in terms of relationship.

So what if we can forgive... it will be deeply etched in our mind.. and never forget...

[colins]

Originally Posted by SneakyBastard

Oh well. Life is strange, ain't it?

Bro sneakybastard, when I was enlisted into the army I always wonder how come so many people with those super weird backgrounds could possibly still be alive at that moment. Why haven't they got knock down by cars or got slashed to death in some dark alley or something? I mean, wouldn't those possibilities be infinitely higher given the way they think and behave?

Then it came to me that I was (hopefully 'was' and not 'am') the one deserving such fate. I realise that when a person adapts naturally, his or her behaviour is affected by a lot more factors in the environment, social, family, media, etc. That kind of person develops a personality which is more 'mainstream'. But when a person is forced to adapt very fast to very extreme conditions, and hovers between life and death (whether self created like suicide or external like death threats), changes on the person become very focused onto adapting to THAT specific condition. Becos it is life and death condition, such change are very hard to reverse as it did not allow time or space for which spiritual checkpoints could be considered i.e. moral, integrity, faith, etc. Once this changed person normalised and 'seals' up his or her wound, the entire set of personality remains until the person suffers an even deeper cut into the soul.

What I am trying to do here is to let you understand the process in which your wife had gone thru to suit the conditions you dumped onto her. It is not as simple as 'changing' back or 'stopping revenge' or 'taking responsibility on her life' anymore. This is the blame that she is talking about, the irreversible changed she created becos she needed to survive. You have to imagine yourself in such state and then give yourself the idea of reverting back to the past personality to understand what pain she has to go thru to face the reality of a cheating husband. She practically need to cut her old wound deep enough, slice off the festering meat and sew herself up.

Quite glad that you still put your child in first priority. But instead of asking her to love a cheating husband again, you may just need to show her how you would love a cheating wife. Hope this helps.

[thesaint21]

1) kepp low until u really caught them red handed if u want a end of it.
2) if u want to keep the relationship then hint her that u found out something fishy going on her already.
3) if u want it rough then go direct to the other party and teach him a lesson.

[splicer]

if you still love her,then find a chance to talk to her about it.
but you are also flirting around with other girls,then maybe you should also stop it.