Girlfriend vs. Other Girl (decent one)

[savacheone]

Hi all,

I'm not married, so technically, I can still choose between current GF and online girl ("Dolly").

But, yeah, I really hate to hurt my GF by breaking with her, and I don't want to break with her because of the feelings we share. However, we don't have an active sex life, and everytime I try to initiate something, she seems really reluctant... I don't ever force her to do things she doesn't want to do.

Conversely, I also feel that Dolly and I will have a really exciting relationship, because we both have almost insatiable sex drives and click really well. She's willing to give up to base 3 in a relationship (base 4 is full blown sex), and knows how to flaunt her sexuality... not that busty, but damn hot... I had the misconception that she was a sweet innocent girl... heh.

I had my second date with Dolly ystd, and it was mindblowing... conversations and erm... kisses. We kissed passionately and eventually ended with CIM BBBJ in my car. While all this is incredibly enjoyable (she initiated it), it leaves me more confused than ever over my decision.

Yes, I know the ladies here will probably zap me, but pls don't ok? It just went so fast ystd night.... The fact that I'm posting shows I'm genuinely confused and hope to get some help...

I know the best way is the declare that I'm attached and ask her if she's willing to just be FBs (I'm contented with Base 3). She's going overseas for 2 weeks soon, so that gives me some time to calm down and organise my thoughts...

[JollyOne]

TS why can't you stay true to your gf ?

[sane]

Originally Posted by JollyOne

TS why can't you stay true to your gf ?

I read somewhere

妻不如妾, 妾不如技，技不如偷，偷不如偷𣎴到。

It's the thrill to do the chasing as they could be never be satisfied with only one.

[PRCsR4Fucking]

Choose based on her +ve attributes and how she can help you as your woman. Don't choose just because she is sexy and good in bed! This type, confirm PRC material

[milford]

if I were you, i will break out with the first girl and go steady with Dolly. It seems you are thinking of her everyday and very passionate about her. It will be very tough and difficult to control feelings. If you really like her so much, you should go for it. Enjoy the fire and passion while its still hot.

[jasdude]

Battle of LUST vs LOVE. TS u are distracted and blinded over this issue. The grass will always look greener over the other side but losing what is in hand for two birds in the bush will be the thing u regret later. Think hard over the principles that govern you in the first place.

[janejane]

TS is lost of what he wants a gf or a fb cum friend , i can tell you now one day Ts will be the one getting ditch by dolly, as girls like her is a player~ there is always a better "dick" out there, so i hope u don't start complaining it over here.
End of the day you already have written the answer who you really want in your last post, why bother asking everyone for help

[SammyHulk]

Well imo, it's a case of mistaken identity of LOVE for LUST.

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[DrPussy]

Originally Posted by janejane

one day Ts will be the one getting ditch by dolly, as girls like her is a player~ there is always a better "dick" out there, so i hope u don't start complaining it over here.

agree, ts deserve to be that result looks like he should get some lesson here

[pmlee]

Originally Posted by hotstuffm8

Bro do you think a woman who gives BBBJ/CIM on your 2nd date is wife material? ...

None of us can judge accurately cos we aren't actually there to see things unfold. You'll have to make the call yourself. Look before you leap. Good luck bro.

A good fb material indeed, TS very confused abt the gf and fb, why just keep her as FB only and jusy have both?

[unsung80]

Originally Posted by savacheone

Hi bros and sisters,

I have a rather happy headache that is, unfortunately, causing some grief and confusion. I’m currently attached with a GF, who is a couple of years younger than me, and is actually my colleague in another department. We are very loving and she has a really nice personality which helps us get along very well. We have done intimate things before, but no full-blown sex. I guess we both want to save it till after marriage.

However, I recently found that because of my high sex drive, I’ve been trying to find one night stand (ONS) either through SBF, at clubs or on online social sites. I’ve never been much of a pick-up artist and seldom go clubbing (like less than 5 times a year), which explains why I have no luck getting ONS in the clubbing session I went for recently with some bros.

The problem arises because I got to know this girl online. Let’s call her Dolly. So Dolly is also young, intelligent and attractive, and she agreed to meet up with me after we interacted online. The dinner with her was fantastic- conversations, healthy teasing, and even abit of playful touching of shoulders etc. (not prolonged touching, just friendly pat on the back sort). We are going on a second date tomorrow night.

Problem is, I realize Dolly is looking for true love, while I’m out to play the field for variety. I’m not looking to have another relationship, as I love my GF and don’t want to hurt her. I just want an ONS (without full blown sex) for variety. If I carry on with Dolly, I think I can have an intimate side relationship with her, but that would require investing time, effort and the scary part- EMOTIONS.

Should I stop dating Dolly and look for ONS somewhere else (I don’t wanna go for FL)? Or continue dating Dolly and have intimate fun with her and hide it from my GF? Or are there other options?

I’m beginning to feel like a guilty jerk, but can’t extricate myself from Dolly’s charms…. Any advice is appreciated from wise fellow SBFers - Can PM me or post here! Thanks for reading my rambling.

You are putting words into your own mouth, i personally assume you love your so call beloved sweet GF. Maybe potentially become your future wife. Yet at the same time betray her trust by hunting for other woman for you to have sex. From a man's point of view, suppose you are single, you want to fuck as much women as you want go ahead. If you hunted 10 and manage to up 5, write a FR and i give you my applause.

IF you are attached and want to eat outside, make sure after eating you wipe your dirty mouth. Not to leave any guilt and evident behind. Yes, i feel like you are a jerk. If i have such a good gf, i would treat her very well if possibly can, instead of wasting time to search for someone to fuck your brain juice out.

Sorry i sounds a bit harsh, but i suggest don't hurt anyone feeling during the process.

[milford]

If your heart can be stolen in the first place from your first gf to Dolly means you dont love the first gf that much. Even if Dolly does not end up as your wife, you can still look for new gals.

[bomberjac]

Originally Posted by gent

I know a guy friend who r in the same situation. He actually planning to marry his gf. But along the way, got to know this new gal colleague and confess to her! The gal knows he got gf and also likes him. Both dating secretly. He told his gal colleague that he is breaking with his gf.

I don't support his action because I feel that his gf will be damn hurt. They r planning to get married and this happened. And I would say that his gf is a decent type.

Now he is trying to break off with his gf of 2-3 years for a gal whom he knows for 6 month. I hope he don't regret.


My 2 cents.

Gent, since ur frd's gfrd is the decent type, y not u go for it? Potong jalan the bugger...

Just my 2 cents...

[gent]

Originally Posted by bomberjac

Gent, since ur frd's gfrd is the decent type, y not u go for it? Potong jalan the bugger...

Just my 2 cents...

What I know is she is badly hurt by him. She actually initiated a break up with my friend...

But I won't go for her cos she is v down already, dont want make it worst... She deserve a better man who love her whole-heartedly...