Do not be upset, sis purplewing...You r not alone wif tis problem....there seems to be quite a no of similar cases like urs tat sometimes leads to some of the wifeys having to eat out themselves...cos of a dissatisfactory sex life wif their respective husbands....
Yr problem seems very much like a case of wifey wif HSD tat wants to enjoy sex but wif a hubby wif kind of LSD, jus happy going thru' the motions for reasons of his own...It's a typical case of a guy prolly not too interested in sex anymore after some yrs of having marital sex, albeit in tis case its jus 4 yrs only...the maxim..."New broom sweeps clean" applies...everything becomes mundane after some period of time....n yes, its true as the sis mentioned, there's no more kissing anymore during the 'Love making'... so tats why many pple say, there's a need to re-ignite or re-kindle the flame of love between the couple frm time to time n sustain it if possible throughout the marital r/s to keep the marriage sexually alive at least...
Empathise wif sis purplewing tat she is oso one of those wifeys facing tis same common problem...as the sis oredi knows...for enjoyable n pain free sex esp for women not already self aroused, FOREPLAY is always necessary to help wet n lubricate their vaginas for the entry n insertion of the huge, hard mass of meat of the men...o/w it will definitely be dry n painful for her when the erected penis is forced in...
The possible reasons maybe as follows :-
1) Sex after those years of marriage might hv always been the same...n for the HB, it's no longer exciting like the one on the wedding nite ...the initial sweet taste of the forbidden fruits fades away over time ...n nothing new is suggested or tried to spice up their sex lives...tats why there's tis advice frm marriage experts, counsellors or such tat though married a couple must still regard themselves AS NOT n pretend they are still trying to date each other...to savour the freshness of their dating times....
2) He might be overhelmed by work stress, a guy so affected by stress in his work place, will hv no appetite for sex when he goes home. He is more worried abt his job than abt sex...
3) He might hv some1 else in mind esp if he puts up late nights n give all kinds of excuses for not being wif the wifey n only does it jus to detract the wife
Anything new, not seen b4 or forbidden esp in sex, i believe will always excite pple esp the guys...still can't believe guys can go on for long w/o some kind or form of sex...they are built by nature to be horny...Kudos to the sis for having done her part to sexually attract her hubby...so now she jus need to find out for herself which one of the abv 3 options is most likely the reason for the dissatisfying sex life she is currently experiencing wif her hubby...Perhaps, she can find out the reasons either overtly wif him or covertly whichever way is more appropriate to her...
jus my 4 cents worth of tots n hope tis helps...hope the sis purplewing will rediscover her enjoyable sex life wif her HB soon...
Eye candy is stimulating maybe u might want to add more like. Shave or wax pussy. Be more seductive or slutty. Be more wild. Be more verbal example like talking dirty etc.
If all else fail have a talk maybe he is stress n worn out by his work.
Lastly he and hope it is not he is screwing someone outside thus is drain an lost interest in u.
For me I don't like hair on my below so I goes for waxing.. Got once I shave myself.. After our session.. He didn't even realize that it gone.. @@ I'm shock
For me I don't like hair on my below so I goes for waxing.. Got once I shave myself.. After our session.. He didn't even realize that it gone.. @@ I'm shock
Look like u have a very distract hubby. Before u jump to any conclusion a suggestion. Why not set the mood have a drink like wine or liquor. Relax have a chat see what is distracting him?? Make known to him what u have done or try but find that he is distract and u want to know why???
It is best not to jump to conclusion make known to
Him how u feel etc.
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PurpleWing sis, I think there isn't a problem with him. He might be tired or just doesn't have a high sex drive as before. However, there are ways you can try to spice things up.
But before that, how about some alcohol with him to loosen things up? I like it back-to-basic visits. It touches a tender point in time, where possibly, could re-ignite things.
I certainly don;t think he's taking you for granted.
Anyway, write on, ask on, I'm sure many here would try to help.. in more then one ways.
I have been married for close to 4years.. Lately I realize that .. I don't feel satisfy with my sex life.. He only suck on breast & touch breast.. Not much foreplay ( which im a person who love foreplay ) No more fingering or licking anymore.. & because is not simulate ..
You come the right place, many samsters are willing to offer you help of any kind....Any way you want it...
Now I tends to dress up a lot.. Put on make up.. Etc.. But he just say I'm getting more & more vain.. Haha.. That's all
Hmm dressing up is fine, but as some other bros have suggested, try to do more interesting things to see whether you can spice things up.
Sounds like you are both doing the same thing every time, some variety will be good! It will also help if when you're not ready for penetration yet to ask him to do more with fingers or tongue etc to get you going.
Look like u have a very distract hubby. Before u jump to any conclusion a suggestion. Why not set the mood have a drink like wine or liquor. Relax have a chat see what is distracting him?? Make known to him what u have done or try but find that he is distract and u want to know why???
It is best not to jump to conclusion make known to
Him how u feel etc.
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Originally Posted by ANowhereMan
PurpleWing sis, I think there isn't a problem with him. He might be tired or just doesn't have a high sex drive as before. However, there are ways you can try to spice things up.
But before that, how about some alcohol with him to loosen things up? I like it back-to-basic visits. It touches a tender point in time, where possibly, could re-ignite things.
I certainly don;t think he's taking you for granted.
Anyway, write on, ask on, I'm sure many here would try to help.. in more then one ways.
Actually we do drink but I'm more often than him... I never think that he stray out or cheating on me.. Just feel that even with communication on this issue.. Things always back to square 1 after 1 good session... So a bit loose heart liao
Sex is something that need mutual communications, understanding and foreplay to enjoy. But sometimes, due to lack of mutual communication and open up, this thing becomes a entertainment fun rather than enjoying thru the whole sex session with our love one.
Both me and my wife used to have this problem before which i really love to have foreplay and oral with her. But she keeps rejecting and thus it causes pain when penetrated into her pussy hole.
After sometimes, i intro her to swing with other male, female and couple. And from there thing become better when our sex and marriage life starts to improve.
When both of us was having sex, she do not seem to enjoy giving me a bj. But with a third party, she will bj them non stop. hahahaha
After having swinging fun, she will comes back and bj me. And we do have some talks as and when and she do open up to explain the reasons why she do not bj me or let me lick her pussy.
Maybe you can try to talk to him and understand what is the reason behind him having such a change in his sex session with you. Wish you good luck
i suggested before.. but he is not interested at all..
02-03-2013, 10:02 AM
...n nothing new is suggested or tried to spice up their sex lives...tats why there's tis advice frm marriage experts, counsellors or such tat though married a couple must still regard themselves AS NOT n pretend they are still trying to date each other...to savour the freshness of their dating times....
