Back Stabbed - from a friend to friend

[DNAT]

Originally Posted by l3atu

Abit lar...just like when u all call me 'ah tu'...I dun look 'tu' rite ?

better scoot .. off topic liao

Shadowluna04: IMO, the best route to take in such situation is to let nature take it's own course and may the best man win. Try to drill that into your friend, take it cool and if it's your's the it will be your's. Even if your ex colleage is already at BF/GF stage with your friend already, and if your army mate can easily snatch her away from him.... If I'm in your friend's shoe I'll be more piss at the gal than the army dude. Such gals are not worth it, give her a banana kick and send her back to ming dynasty. The army dude has indirectly help your friend by exposing the weakness of the relationship and the character defect of the chick. At least it happen now and not after marriage. Tell your friend to look on the bright side and move on.

If the gal and your friend are not invovle to the relationship stage yet, the you should advise your friend to be more mature and accept the fact that the army dude IS the better man.

[diesel]

Dear shadowlunar04, many kind hearted samsters are contributing their opinions. Please do not play hide & seek with us.

Originally Posted by Castrol

even if it is the girl who took the initiative, the army friend should check with bro shadow first, not go out with her secretly.

Originally Posted by Cheri_Popper

Tell your friend that even if she don't leave him for another guy now, it will be a matter of time that she will leave him for another person. As long as she is not married to him, she still have her right to choose who she wants to be with!

Originally Posted by Phucker

she can zao sai your fren, i bet she will zao sai your army fren eventually, just a matter of time only....thats what we call retribution.

Originally Posted by Phucker

frankly speaking, the gal is either undecided or she wants the army guy, or else she wouldn't do this kinda shit in the 1st place. my advice to your fren is fuck care abt the cha bor, even if she comes crying back to him, get rid of her lah. never trust a woman who betrays u. might sound stern, but if she can do it once, there's no guarantee that there won't be a 2nd time. he deserves better.

Originally Posted by notti_boi

think u should speak to the women... let her decide who she wants... then u will have to spend the time trying to ask the other guy to give her up.

Originally Posted by WWEF

No one exactly is at fault here.....if die die have to find fault then i think YOU and the girl is at fault.
Most ironic of all, u actually intro a "i like to sian other ppl's GF" type of friend to a "zao sai" girl. What a combo hit u have gave to your poor, close friend. That kind of girl, sooner or later will "zao sai" one what.....But die die the 3rd party is u intro 1....actually u damn suay....

Originally Posted by casannova03

If the gal really wants to go with ur army friend, then ask you other blood brother if this is the type of gal he wants for a GF or even a wife??

Originally Posted by Happosai

Even if your ex colleage is already at BF/GF stage with your friend already, and if your army mate can easily snatch her away from him.... If I'm in your friend's shoe I'll be more piss at the gal than the army dude. Such gals are not worth it, give her a banana kick and send her back to ming dynasty.

That is what I expected in my first post. shadowlunar04, from the above summary quoted from these helpful samsters, you must know who to blame and you should know what to do by now!

[shadowlunar04]

Thanks for the advice and comments from all bros.

Just came back from work, now logging on from hotel internet.

I had a good talk with my bro last night I managed to convince him to sit down and to have a good talk with his gf. Where and when, I don't care. I have not right or want to get into it anymore.

Just to make things a bit clearer.

1) I did not intro this ex-colleague of mine to my bro. She joined his company and he took a fancy of her first. He expressed interest to her first before I helped to push a bit. Read my 1st posting carefully.

2) Like I said before, I DO NOT and WILL NOT want to get involve in any form of love matters other than mine. I had no choice, in this case, because there's gonna be a physical violent involved. I, merely, just want to prevent the violent from happening, not resolving the love matters. The mess they created, will have to be clean up by themselves, full stop.

3) I know now my bro's gf is a two timer. But, put yourself in my bro's shoes. If you have get involved with her, and this thing happened on you. Will you able to pull out just by saying you can? Come on, there are true feelings put in. Everything happened so fast, just like a avalanche. Will you be rational enough to sort everything out?

Anyway, I have done my part. The rest is all up to them.

[rahl]

Fully agreed, bro.

[Bohemian001]

ya... guess u did wat I would have done...not to get involve in the 'feeling' part of the whole affair but to put out the fire in case it happens.... cos all parties are sort of interlinked to u... we can't justify betrayal in this case cos we're not in the shoe to comment... but hten again perphaps the 'prosecutor' out there, Bro Diesel could..............

[Phucker]

Originally Posted by shadowlunar04

Thanks for the advice and comments from all bros.

Just came back from work, now logging on from hotel internet.

I had a good talk with my bro last night I managed to convince him to sit down and to have a good talk with his gf. Where and when, I don't care. I have not right or want to get into it anymore.

Just to make things a bit clearer.


Anyway, I have done my part. The rest is all up to them.

good lah, anyway relationships are messy stuff....try not to get involved especially when it aint yours cos end up there won't be any thanks but alot of ppl cursing or blaming u.
let them settle it themselves, u did what u can as a fren. no need to feel guilty. there's no one to blame exactly for a failed relationship, surely all parties are somewhat at fault. this kind of things can't force, your fren might be emotionally agitated, but he should take time to cool off and decide if this kind of gal is worth him getting so upset over lor. aiyah, bring him go gl relieve his frustrations lah...hehe

[nivlac]

such thing often happen lahz. sometime its a good thing to ur frend at least he knew wat kinda of gf he is having but count urself 'suay' that ur army frend went too far lahz