How to stop a guy from falling in love with me yet remain friends

[Qwerty6969]

Originally Posted by sammyhunk

Too good? His cock very big? He last very long? Sex without condom?

Why are u so sure he aren't fucking ard without condom and giving you freebies?

I paiseh share la but I'm very sure he dun after me. You can say its 6th sense..usually my 6th sense v spot on.

[Qwerty6969]

Originally Posted by sbwow

Because by signing the marriage certificate, you should be following the rules/laws of the Government set forth in the terms of marriage.
Question is why are you not following?
Why did you sign it in the first place? HAHAHA.

Aiyah u dun scold me can ..relationships are like that. There's no 100% guarantee that you will not have a change of heart or fall for another one somewhere along the line.

[Qwerty6969]

Originally Posted by jblnonstop

for me i would class the men who cannot let go, cannot rationalise, weak men. sorry. my own belief. may differ from many others.

crying is ok. but crying for you to stay, many missed calls and texts, in my opinion he is a weak man. or a toxic narcissist that is using tears to hold you back.

i actually think you will be better off without him.

Toxic narcissist...hmmm

[gabrielboey]

Originally Posted by Qwerty6969

Toxic narcissist...hmmm

it is a possibility. they play victim to get what they want.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Qwerty6969

Where got common? Ur circle of friends all like these meh? Mine all prim and proper Christians. No smoke no drink no party

So there's your problem!!!! It's the bunch of holier-than-thou Christians that are the root cause of your angst.

Ditch them and look for a less savory segment of society to associate with.

[larue]

Originally Posted by Qwerty6969

Aiyah u dun scold me can ..relationships are like that. There's no 100% guarantee that you will not have a change of heart or fall for another one somewhere along the line.

So stop feeling guilty about your actions.

You say you to want to end the relationship but anyone reading your posts can tell that you don't want to at all.

You want him.

Your so-called attempts to break off with him simply has everybody rolling their eyes.

So 婆婆妈妈, the two of you made for each other.

[larue]

Originally Posted by Qwerty6969

wahahahaha

Apart from guilt im just afraid how ppl might judge me also deep down. You see those videos and news about small 3 and it's always the women getting slapped or kicked and criticised. Not much of the guys. And also what if ..one day I tell my hub I'm going out but in fact I was with my AF and then something happened and touchwood crash car then everyone knows after then how. I'm just being rational here

Where got common? Ur circle of friends all like these meh? Mine all prim and proper Christians. No smoke no drink no party

You are afraid of being judged because you judge other people also.

Also, you only think they are prim and proper. They probably think the same of you.

The 'bad' ones pretend to be 'good' and the 'good' ones pretend to be 'bad'. The honest ones don't give a shit.

[Zetyalpha]

Originally Posted by Qwerty6969

I'm in a fix. Been in an affair for almost 2years and my partner fell for me. I tried to blow hot and cold but it doesn't seem to stop him from falling harder. I actually wanted to stop and told him many times I don't think we can go on anymore but everytime he cries and I soften and sticked around.

I really run out of ideas to let him know that I wanted to remain friends..Good good friends cos of our commitments to our respective families. I cannot simply go MIA cos he knows where I live. Any suggestions?

Just bang other guys and cut off contact with him. You women like to keep leading the guy for fun. Time waster.

[Willamshakspear]

Originally Posted by Zetyalpha

Just bang other guys and cut off contact with him. You women like to keep leading the guy for fun. Time waster.

Men & women have DIFFERENT feelings/emotions when it comes to sex & intimacy. For males, sex is just an itch to be relived, & then focus on OTHER priorities in life such as putting food on the table for loved ones.

Women, in our MALE DOMINATED society, are often left out in critical social & economic decisions, & thus have more time to ponder on their lives lot. It had been this way since civilization began eons ago, as males are born stronger & have expectations by societies to be providers - to hunt for food, & women - simple job as gatherers of crops, each a PARTNER, to build up CIVILIZATION as we today experienced & live.

Women needs love, & most critically - security, that they would not be abandoned when looks & abilities fade with age in our male dominated World. Thus they depend on the power of LOVE, to bind each other, to the next generation.

Being partners, both male & female have roles to play. Once that role is not fulfilled, then the partnership will break up & each suffer CONSEQUENCES, such as emotional pain that can last forever, as a partnership was made based upon trust. Once that trust is broken, it will be difficult to make back, & others will judge the partnership, & determine their own actions of trust in relationship with the two in a partnership, affecting the long journey of life for all.

Thus, the advice to make having a sex a priority in life would be a bad one. How can trust be made when sacred vows are easily broken?

Relationships are never easy, as no 2 minds think alike. It takes effort & communications. If one gives up easily, then would not one be a wimp & a loser for life? If one gives up on one, the life long mentality would be to be coward, but then, how many more relationships can one run away for life & be ostracized by society?

No. We Humans were born with courage & well taught by parents, to hurt none or be hurt by none. Find solutions instead on what we had started, to repair any wounds than to fester or grow hate.

'Do or do not do. There is no trying' & walk away with pathetic excuses that you had tried, leaving others with the mess you had created.

[Zetyalpha]

Originally Posted by Willamshakspear

Men & women have DIFFERENT feelings/emotions when it comes to sex & intimacy. For males, sex is just an itch to be relived, & then focus on OTHER priorities in life such as putting food on the table for loved ones.

Women, in our MALE DOMINATED society, are often left out in critical social & economic decisions, & thus have more time to ponder on their lives lot. It had been this way since civilization began eons ago, as males are born stronger & have expectations by societies to be providers - to hunt for food, & women - simple job as gatherers of crops, each a PARTNER, to build up CIVILIZATION as we today experienced & live.

Women needs love, & most critically - security, that they would not be abandoned when looks & abilities fade with age in our male dominated World. Thus they depend on the power of LOVE, to bind each other, to the next generation.

Being partners, both male & female have roles to play. Once that role is not fulfilled, then the partnership will break up & each suffer CONSEQUENCES, such as emotional pain that can last forever, as a partnership was made based upon trust. Once that trust is broken, it will be difficult to make back, & others will judge the partnership, & determine their own actions of trust in relationship with the two in a partnership, affecting the long journey of life for all.

Thus, the advice to make having a sex a priority in life would be a bad one. How can trust be made when sacred vows are easily broken?

Relationships are never easy, as no 2 minds think alike. It takes effort & communications. If one gives up easily, then would not one be a wimp & a loser for life? If one gives up on one, the life long mentality would be to be coward, but then, how many more relationships can one run away for life & be ostracized by society?

No. We Humans were born with courage & well taught by parents, to hurt none or be hurt by none. Find solutions instead on what we had started, to repair any wounds than to fester or grow hate.

'Do or do not do. There is no trying' & walk away with pathetic excuses that you had tried, leaving others with the mess you had created.

":Women, in our MALE DOMINATED society, are often left out in critical social & economic decisions"???? You borned 2 centuries ago? Or you having a high fever, You fucking cuck and simp!

How old are you btw? late 50s? &70+?

[ps7432]

TS, sorry to hear your sticky situation but your bff is filling in the gap of whatever your hubby is not. Though you nay want to let go but you do love your bff enough to hold back each time. His attention for you far exceed what your hubby has for you. Maybe it may make you feel better to know that if a guy is not passionate to you anymore, it may mean he finds you unattractive enough. Unless the guy is impotent or extremely busy with work, otherwise it is he has an outlet outside. Likewise, your bff may one day get tired of the companionship and sex. If your bff really loves you, and wants to be with you, he probably would not harm your relationship with your family, and would himself sacrifice first to make things straight with his wife and be with you. Otherwise, he is just enjoying the joyride of having a FWB. And to me, there is rarely a guy who is gooey gooey good shoes. . I can have friends who frequent church, serves in church, do not go to party, do not drink, but also have affairs outside or many outlets outside. No offence but we are all human. At the end of the day, if your guilt does not consume you, then you know what to do.

[maneepunnani]

Originally Posted by ps7432

TS, sorry to hear your sticky situation but your bff is filling in the gap of whatever your hubby is not. Though you nay want to let go but you do love your bff enough to hold back each time. His attention for you far exceed what your hubby has for you. Maybe it may make you feel better to know that if a guy is not passionate to you anymore, it may mean he finds you unattractive enough. Unless the guy is impotent or extremely busy with work, otherwise it is he has an outlet outside. Likewise, your bff may one day get tired of the companionship and sex. If your bff really loves you, and wants to be with you, he probably would not harm your relationship with your family, and would himself sacrifice first to make things straight with his wife and be with you. Otherwise, he is just enjoying the joyride of having a FWB. And to me, there is rarely a guy who is gooey gooey good shoes. . I can have friends who frequent church, serves in church, do not go to party, do not drink, but also have affairs outside or many outlets outside. No offence but we are all human. At the end of the day, if your guilt does not consume you, then you know what to do.

I concur. At the end of the day, decide with a clear head. the friend now is a temptation. For him, he will continue to be a temptation as he is still not married to you. long term also he may become bored of you. so really need to consider wisely.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Qwerty6969

I'm in a fix. Been in an affair for almost 2years and my partner fell for me. I tried to blow hot and cold but it doesn't seem to stop him from falling harder. I actually wanted to stop and told him many times I don't think we can go on anymore but everytime he cries and I soften and sticked around.

I really run out of ideas to let him know that I wanted to remain friends..Good good friends cos of our commitments to our respective families. I cannot simply go MIA cos he knows where I live. Any suggestions?

Souds like something headline news soon...the longer you stick with him...the worst...so just dun meet him...

Block him and all his contacts...

I hope the headline news never will happened...

Very simple fact that he dowan to end...is free fuck and knowing you are willing...by now I think he may had secretly filmed you in action or took pictures of your naked in actions...

Soon will be blackmail cases or circulate photos among your colleagues or firends...

I want to be nasty here to say if you are playing around I think great chance your hubby is also playing around...so sometimes best be open to discuss with him...once you had the truth about the hubby playing...

[EtherC]

Thats why we pay for sex , sister. It is never free.

[99problems]

Originally Posted by Qwerty6969

I'm in a fix. Been in an affair for almost 2years and my partner fell for me. I tried to blow hot and cold but it doesn't seem to stop him from falling harder. I actually wanted to stop and told him many times I don't think we can go on anymore but everytime he cries and I soften and sticked around.

I really run out of ideas to let him know that I wanted to remain friends..Good good friends cos of our commitments to our respective families. I cannot simply go MIA cos he knows where I live. Any suggestions?

Lie to him that you missed your period and see what's his reaction..