Marrying A Thai ger

[rapebill]

Originally Posted by Cyberspace Nerd

so i asked her normally how much, she said up to you.

this "up to you" is the most dangerous phrase to me.

when she said this to me, it means that she will not be helping me to make the correct or the most appropriate decision, whatever the context is.
In the case of sinsoot, the ideal sum is obviously to be low as possible while still giving face to the daughter and her family.

Remember that whatever decision you make, you have to factor her somehow. And it is not easy to take into account so many things without her inputs. A joint decision is always best because in the event of a mistake, both parties get a share of the blame game.

now whenever she said "up to you" to me for major issues, I would get a bit agitated and ask her why she does not want to help me with the decision-making. I would refuse to make a decision unless I somehow get her inputs and reach a consensus.

[kwanteen]

Originally Posted by rapebill

this "up to you" is the most dangerous phrase to me.

when she said this to me, it means that she will not be helping me to make the correct or the most appropriate decision, whatever the context is.
In the case of sinsoot, the ideal sum is obviously to be low as possible while still giving face to the daughter and her family.

Remember that whatever decision you make, you have to factor her somehow. And it is not easy to take into account so many things without her inputs. A joint decision is always best because in the event of a mistake, both parties get a share of the blame game.

now whenever she said "up to you" to me for major issues, I would get a bit agitated and ask her why she does not want to help me with the decision-making. I would refuse to make a decision unless I somehow get her inputs and reach a consensus.

when this famous phrase " up to you " is said, whatever decision u made will not be the ideal one cos they oredi have made one yet not disclosing it till u say yours first....

[rapebill]

burnt at least 20k B during songkran. Was surprised that she wanted to make love at a relative's place (no door whatsoever, anyone could have walked in on us).

Lesson learnt during this trip: just pass all money in wallet to her for her to handle. She's a lot more nicer and accomodating when I passed my wallet to her and I have no money on myself.

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by ParaParaSakura

Let me share my story...

Should I take the plunge after waiting all these years?

No if you asked me.

Reason 1 - You have been living without her for so long and treating her as friend, why do u need her now after she is left on the shelf? Its like buying the last piece of meat in the shelf when all the good ones are taken up.

Reason 2 - If she is true to you, she would have marry you without asking so much e.g 2 millon and later 1 millon so that her parents can live in comfort. Love is only between you and her, y do u need to pay up so much when she is in love with you sincerely unless she is aiming on the $$?

Reason 3 - Now she is old, she is looking for a safe port to land and you are the only port currently available for her. If there is a better and bigger port, would she still be asking you to marry her? i doubt seriously.

Reason 4 - She had mentioned a Term and Condition in order for you to mary her. What if you are unable to meet the T&C? Does that mean she will go back to her old trade? Loving someone is not like that leh. When I married my wife, she does not mentioned any T&C to me and she had been with me through the worse... This is called true love... not what your tirak had mentioned....

Common on... all the crap reasons that she had mentioned when she is young does not indicate that she is in love with you. More that she is interested in making $$.

Anyway its your life. Decide on what you want and hope for the best. Cant decide for you.

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by rapebill

burnt at least 20k B during songkran. Was surprised that she wanted to make love at a relative's place (no door whatsoever, anyone could have walked in on us).

Lesson learnt during this trip: just pass all money in wallet to her for her to handle. She's a lot more nicer and accomodating when I passed my wallet to her and I have no money on myself.

Bro, thais usually have a poor management of $$ when the $$ is not from their pocket...

I am sured that if you continue to handle over yor $$ to her to manage, it might end up as a disaster... Mai Forget.... Thais pple lived by the day. They spend whatever they have if the $$ does not come from them.

Anyway your tirak might be differ...

[rapebill]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Bro, thais usually have a poor management of $$ when the $$ is not from their pocket...

I am sured that if you continue to handle over yor $$ to her to manage, it might end up as a disaster... Mai Forget.... Thais pple lived by the day. They spend whatever they have if the $$ does not come from them.

Anyway your tirak might be differ...

well, from I can gather and from her own admission that whatever she has extra, she would readily spend it on her extended family. I am ok with it if I can see the money goes into food or stuff for the family & children and not towards some other bfs/gigs

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by rapebill

Lesson learnt during this trip: just pass all money in wallet to her for her to handle. She's a lot more nicer and accomodating when I passed my wallet to her and I have no money on myself.

Paid love is always enjoyable.

[borom]

Originally Posted by ParaParaSakura

I got married, had kids, got divorced. While she married a farang moved to US, divorced, went back LOS became someone's mistress,........
Recently, she told me she would marry me without any monetary conditions as long as I promised to take care of her.
Should I take the plunge after waiting all these years?

Assuming you are a Singaporean,and as a divorcee you will be well aware that the Singapore WOMEN’S CHARTER (CHAPTER 353) will means that you will have to pay maintainence to her at the very least if the marraige fails (even if she commits adultery and you are innocent)- and she will be given a share of your assets on divorce .
Unless you are non Singaporean, not domiciled in Singapore and have no assets in S'pore (even CPF is not protected from her)-she will come out the winner once you mary her.
What a fate for Singapore man!

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Paid love is always enjoyable.

bro i horny lei wanna go GL bo :P i got a lover there to sex lei

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by rapebill

well, from I can gather and from her own admission that whatever she has extra, she would readily spend it on her extended family. I am ok with it if I can see the money goes into food or stuff for the family & children and not towards some other bfs/gigs

bro i in no position to tell u off or whatever since u already marry her. so long u happy gum wan can liao but still just wanna said there will come a time u grow tired and feel that what u doing it only spoiling her by giving too much. just need to control someway.

well i do agree if spend on family like food n stuff is ok but to what extend if keep buying things also cannot right. she also had to care about u n her new family right. most important also not spending on other guys if so then i rather u said bye bye to her.

dont forget bro. she is not the only thai girl in thailand. still got young virgin pussy waiting to be marry off in the villiage.

i think she also not stupid lar if u leave her she also pain liao cos she going to suffer so had to weight the things u do bros. cheers

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

bro i horny lei wanna go GL bo :P i got a lover there to sex lei

U everydays also horny.

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by naemlo

U everydays also horny.

hehehe i let u take front row i take back row lar. i swee bo

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

hehehe i let u take front row i take back row lar. i swee bo

Mai, I prefer privacy

[havana]

Originally Posted by borom

Assuming you are a Singaporean,and as a divorcee you will be well aware that the Singapore WOMEN’S CHARTER (CHAPTER 353) will means that you will have to pay maintainence to her at the very least if the marraige fails (even if she commits adultery and you are innocent)- and she will be given a share of your assets on divorce .
Unless you are non Singaporean, not domiciled in Singapore and have no assets in S'pore (even CPF is not protected from her)-she will come out the winner once you mary her.
What a fate for Singapore man!

Wah I dont think I want to marry Singaporean

[Cyberspace Nerd]

Originally Posted by havana

Wah I dont think I want to marry Singaporean

I am thinking of marrying a singaporean girl, but not in singapore , can or not? like that she not protected under women's charter.