Marrying A Thai ger

[Alkano]

Originally Posted by rapebill

call her and talk about the weather etc
before leading to the real issue.
then just hear her entirely out on her inputs on the $$$ issue

I have not try calling her yet but will do it tonite.
But however she will turn silence on me if she find conversation not comfortable.
I have been sending alot of sms to her already but no reply.

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

think this story should be posted in What do they "mean" when your Thai GF says ...... instead of here. this thread talk about marry thai ger. it not related at all

before i go on hehehehe the person minus me 1 point ask me shut up. hehehe just to advice him u think u 1 point can make me shut up ah even - 999 i also wont shutup kekekeke

ok to the bros who just posted. if a girl bcos of $$$ dont want to talk to u then forget it liao. it seems to me that she love $$ then loving u. what is the point forcing urself going thru this. u are already in pain n she doesnt really cares if she care she wont do this to u bcos of $$$.

to alkano maybe u would like to share what $$$ issue. it been 4 days and u sms her no reply. have u call her if call her she off phone or dont answer ur call. u should know by now what is the out come.... be strong if she wants to be like that leave it. u dont sms or call her for the next few days n see what happens. even she call u then just treat it as nothing. most important when she call liao dont scare n give everything to her. u cannot use $$$ to buy love, u will suffer.

as for bro rapbill, i doubt so on what u just posted. i been visiting my dear almost every 2 to 3 mth and i stay there at least min 2 weeks to 1mth. i dont see there is a problem.

when i was with my ex also no such problem. moreover she married to u i dont see why the husband cannot visit her. it is not a culture it on them n i dont understand what u mean "they dont expect" come on bro u the husband why u cant visit her that often???

dont need to give a damn what they think it u n ur wife not them...... u feeding them not her uncle/ aunty or neighbours....
maybe if u give them $$$, they welcome u to come everyday or stay there perm...

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Well if u can afford the airfare and expenses in the long run, better u go visit yor wife every month... wait she lagi.. get extra activities.. not saying that u do not trust yor wife. Just that, its their cutlure...

Bettter get yor wife to stay with u best.

agree with u in some way bro. It their culture but it seems that it also their way of living. It hard to explain on this. also dont want to go into details cos dont wanna offence bros who have thai wifes be it decent or non decent.

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Although the truth is hard to accept, I still think that you should tell your friend.... if u consider him as your buddy...

Its better to tell him now rather than he knows it later. Time will heal him..

I think we just had to leave it at it is then telling them. unless mao86 see it with his own eyes that his gd friend's gf really run house. we know it also that when the girl n their bf no more or jealous that the friend can get better things then her. she will said all kind of bad things to make the other party breakup.

so better to pretend dont know then later get fark for being a bz body.

[Alkano]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

to alkano maybe u would like to share what $$$ issue. it been 4 days and u sms her no reply. have u call her if call her she off phone or dont answer ur call. u should know by now what is the out come.... be strong if she wants to be like that leave it. u dont sms or call her for the next few days n see what happens. even she call u then just treat it as nothing. most important when she call liao dont scare n give everything to her. u cannot use $$$ to buy love, u will suffer.

Thks bro....appreciate your feedback..

[Charmaine]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

It hard to explain on this. also dont want to go into details cos dont wanna offence bros who have thai wifes be it decent or non decent.

Why don't you go into detail, pussyman72? It would really help newbies like myself who's still learning about the way Thai females treat and handle relationships.

Is it really an "in-born" trait that they're naturally flirty and always seeking out to "sanuk", regardless of consequences?

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by Charmaine

Why don't you go into detail, pussyman72? It would really help newbies like myself who's still learning about the way Thai females treat and handle relationships.

Is it really an "in-born" trait that they're naturally flirty and always seeking out to "sanuk", regardless of consequences?

hi charmaine

everybody is newbie. for myself im still learning till now. imagin i been expose to thai for more then 14 yrs, every now n then i still learning something.

nobody is god that for sure bud. we are all human being we have feelings and when comes to feeling everything also can. that is our greatest weakness. that what the working girls ( be it thai or other nation) are aiming at "weak heart"

i dont like to label working girls as cheaters cos we guys also cheat woman for sex how we cheat we play them making them think we like them. play finish n move on. to me it take 2 hands to claps.

coming to why this girls like to run house or what. in the first place we are not thai just remember that. we wont understand their culture who will know them best. the thai guys will know their girls better.... they speak the same language. even we know how to speak thai it still not the same.

there are many many reason they fark ard. who knows maybe when we know her, she already have a bf or a husband but bluff u said is her bro, good friend etc. then can we said they run home. i dont think so.

another thing is. even she dont have bf or husband. she love u n be with u but when things turn sour. either she know u run house, big quarrle for so many times till they sian. so they just wanna find a guy who can give her sex n love for that moment instead of u. u never know. i seen it and i also experience it.

another reason could be u are just a walking ATM no love at all. she just wants u is bcos u can take care of them but they have part time bf to enjoy with when u are not around.

another one is dont forget this girls use to enjoy alot when working they always get fark by guys they dont like to sleep with but for money anything also can. so when they have the money they spend it on ducks. hope u guys know what is ducks.

i only can said 1 thing which my friend thai wifes ever tell me if she really love u. she can just throw everything away n move to singapore be with u unless u are the one who is trying to play pussy only. they wont want anything or ask u buy anything for her family etc some even understand that the bf doesnt have money so even do away sinsoot.

many many more to talk about. but i think i said enough. trust me using $$$ buy love is suffering or to settle ur problem with ur girl bcos of money is also a problem.

ask ourself what we want that is most important. i know there will sure be bros who disagree with me. to each his own but i said it from my exp and what i have seen from other bros who got into shits before.

not forget the girls teach n show me how they cheat guy money when they have bf. one of them is me, a wl was with me treat me as bf and she ask me keep quiet to cheat another guy money n hp. i dont even need to spend a single $$$ on her. that is real life exp i have seen.

[pussyman72]

oh another thing to add in. i believe we guys also same same when we are comfortable with the woman we know etc. we also try our skills or trying our luck to see we can get the girl to bed with us or have some sex relationship behind our wife or gf so it all the same.

most important of all dont have a Weak Heart or best some bros will advices dont get involve with WL. not everyone can handle it. most of the time i see many will be crying like mad bcos they got hurt so badly.

[Charmaine]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

most important of all dont have a Weak Heart or best some bros will advices dont get involve with WL. not everyone can handle it. most of the time i see many will be crying like mad bcos they got hurt so badly.

Thanks for your insightful comments, pussyman72.

I'd agree with the "weak heart" part. If by any chance you're a sensitive bloke fresh out of a long-term relationship, or simple can't afford to get hurt, just don't try. I found myself on a slippery slope and almost didn't live long enough to tell the tale. Bangkok veterans on this board will know my story.

Truth be told, Thai girls are everything you'll ever want in a woman - submissive (mostly), sweet, gentle, accommodating and loving. Or so they all seem anyway. It's easy to fall in love with them, especially because they hold traits that we desire from our local counterparts all our lives. But you'll also come to realise that they're a totally different breed - they've been through it all before and they know exactly how to play the game - you could even label them as borderline manipulative. They've been battle-hardened and they won't batter an eyelid to ending it at the flick of a button. Such is the volatile nature of Thai relationships.

It's exhilarating to get involved, but you must be mindful of the consequences even before you begin. Just like taking a roller coaster ride, you know it'll be fun, but if you're prone to heart attacks you'd do well to read all the warning labels before you get up there.

[JWNY]

Personally in my opinion,

Tirakship, especially with FL/WL, i would discourage. For a Thai girl, get ready for the culture differences.

I do agree with bro puss72 on some of his points, but at the same time, filial piety is very important to them. Mama and Papa will always come first, then siblings, then a gig or pee-chai...maybe eventually you. This order...seldom restructures to our favour.

And don't be too quick too judge them, i've seen it with my eyes. Some of these girls have the tendency of leaving their phone at home or not being able to hear their phone ring...the problem is, the guy would be so anxious and chalk up so many missed calls or text messages to the girl. Be realistic, if she's out the whole day - how many missed calls will she expect? And sometimes we guys, let our mind stray...for some reason, if she's not picking up - she's up to no good. Give her the benefit of doubt. This is just an example.

Bro puss72 is right...their body to them, is not sacred. They won't see the rationale or feel cheap about it if you lecture them. Sex is sex...love is love, giving you sex does not equate giving you love. She can sleep with anyone but the one in her heart is truly just one (whoever that is)

Money, will always be an issue...it's never enough. However, not all of them are gold diggers.

I don't know about other bros...but sometimes i regret learning the Thai language. When i hear how some of the girls whisper sweet nothings to their faens...and their gigs are just beside them.

There are good Thai women, not necessary learned (graduate and above), good and bad come in all forms.

For my overall experience, it's the distance that pose a threat to the relationship. If you can be posted to work there and be with her or she can come here to be a homemaker or get a job, would be best in my opinion. No relationship can sustain too long over a period of distant "loving".

...and when it comes to relationships, forget samster seniority, minority etc...all of them shed tears when they go through their own "private dancer"

Take care guys

JWNY

[Si Geena]

I enjoyed JWNY's comments very much and they seem to cement what I've always held as my personal view as well.

I also hold the view that biggest obstacle for any relationship is communication. Distance and language differences will just compound the problem in communication.

Close the distance, close the language differences and we make things simpler.

[Charmaine]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Personally in my opinion,

Tirakship, especially with FL/WL, i would discourage. For a Thai girl, get ready for the culture differences.

I do agree with bro puss72 on some of his points, but at the same time, filial piety is very important to them. Mama and Papa will always come first, then siblings, then a gig or pee-chai...maybe eventually you. This order...seldom restructures to our favour.

And don't be too quick too judge them, i've seen it with my eyes. Some of these girls have the tendency of leaving their phone at home or not being able to hear their phone ring...the problem is, the guy would be so anxious and chalk up so many missed calls or text messages to the girl. Be realistic, if she's out the whole day - how many missed calls will she expect? And sometimes we guys, let our mind stray...for some reason, if she's not picking up - she's up to no good. Give her the benefit of doubt. This is just an example.

Bro puss72 is right...their body to them, is not sacred. They won't see the rationale or feel cheap about it if you lecture them. Sex is sex...love is love, giving you sex does not equate giving you love. She can sleep with anyone but the one in her heart is truly just one (whoever that is)

Money, will always be an issue...it's never enough. However, not all of them are gold diggers.

I don't know about other bros...but sometimes i regret learning the Thai language. When i hear how some of the girls whisper sweet nothings to their faens...and their gigs are just beside them.

There are good Thai women, not necessary learned (graduate and above), good and bad come in all forms.

For my overall experience, it's the distance that pose a threat to the relationship. If you can be posted to work there and be with her or she can come here to be a homemaker or get a job, would be best in my opinion. No relationship can sustain too long over a period of distant "loving".

...and when it comes to relationships, forget samster seniority, minority etc...all of them shed tears when they go through their own "private dancer"

Take care guys

JWNY

Wonderful post.

For me, the distance is a circumstance - the biggest threat to a potential relationship is still that dreaded word, trust. It would already have been difficult to give her full benefit of the doubt when she's a normal girl - what more a WL? Trust can build or destroy a relationship in an instant. Give her the respect you think she deserves and it can last a lifetime. Keep questioning her or snooping around and be prepared for a bumpy ride.

How I wish Thai girls treasured their bodies more sometimes.

[Exciter101]

The worst part is the things u do or build over a period of time can be gone overnight or in an instant.
Don't they have any feelings at all?
Don't they have any love?
Perhaps this is the pros and cons of having a thai gf...

[rapebill]

yes I fully agreed that I will need to bring my wife over to stay with me.

The issue is that she has 2 sons and I am not sure how we can manage to bring them over as well. It is difficult because her sons are not of my blood. Secondly, she will feel bored here as it will be very difficult to find her a job or find things for her to do to keep her occupied. Furthermore, the new house over at thailand is almost ready. If she don't stay in the new house, then it defeat the purpose.

However, if her 2 sons can be here, then I think it might be possible for her to stay on a more long-term basis.

Recently, she had expressed willingness to try staying with me in Singapore.
I think I will have to plan carefully to make sure that her stay a very pleasant experience, otherwise she will have excuses not to come back. LOL.

Alternatively, I think we can start some business and then I eventually join her and become a thai PR. However, I read and heard of so many problems trying to be a thai PR. In addition, it will be easier (for me) to make $$$ in sillypore than in thailand.

The conclusion? I just have to take one step at a time and see how this relationship pan out. It was very shaky initially although it have now stablised significantly. Just have to work on it patiently and hope for the best (while prepared for the worst).

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by Exciter101

The worst part is the things u do or build over a period of time can be gone overnight or in an instant.
Don't they have any feelings at all?
Don't they have any love?
Perhaps this is the pros and cons of having a thai gf...

what feeling do we want from them when they been sleeping with so many men. dont forget they oso did give out their feeling before when they were new and got play out.

some will have bf or husband when they start in this line so that i cant comment much believe everyone know what they want from us when already they have somebody.

same as love...

looking for gf in WL or a FL is like looking for a needle in the haystacks. good one hard to come by not said u cannot get. but how much affort are u willing to put in to wait n let them understand.

come back later to cont....