Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?

[AllInObama]

Originally Posted by loneyheart

guy always on the losing edge

Very true actually

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by maxdr21

I had tried talking to her on many occasions, she couldn’t break clean as she said felt bad to ignore the colleague and also awkward to just not talk to him in the office. I’m so tired to talk alr, this has been giving me many sleepless night and consumed my mental energy till I don’t have the capacity to function probably.

One outlet which I find can balance my emotion is to go down the same path as her, to find a fwb and seek an outlet to disperse this negative vibe. Probably it sounds like my own excuses but this is by far helping me to stabilise my emotion to carrying on to lead the life as per normal.

Like that har ??

Have it ever cross your mind that your wife could be the problem ??

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by maxdr21

We lead a mundane routines, so anything out of the norm it’s quite obvious. Starting from the constant glued to her phone from day to night (for months) even while beside me she is constantly texting someone (first clue), and she would share how toxic the office culture is by embracing the idea that having office affairs is the norm ppl are seeing each other despite having a partner (second clue) I didn’t dwell further and the news broke out when she returned home one day from her jogging session with her ‘colleague’ but with a sense of showered aroma (third clue). After a few questioning she couldn’t hold up her stories and eventually spill the bean while crying how guilty she felt. I asked to see the convo but she is reluctant, but eventually gave in and the messages sort of confirmed with the constant alluring convo that the guy is asking for more and details of how they both enjoyed the ‘session’.

Nevertheless, the matter dies down and we agreed to put it behind. But we all know this marks a new understanding of our marriage. Whatever happens outside stay out of the family, and we continue to live in harmony happily ever after.

I don’t see this is entirely her mistake, but is partially my fault for not giving her the attention and focuses too much on the kid and work, which contributes to her opening up to someone who is willing to showered her the attention. In any case things alr happened, and I recognised u can never be in control over another person. If u cannot fight them, u join them. And I’m glad I did and I actually found someone else thru online platform who is having the same plight with her hubby and is constantly seeking out man to get even with her hubby. Yet to score but I am working on it lol.

TS , there is no such thing as what happens outside stays out of the family..

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by itguy2008

I am not the TS. I am divorced.

Before my divorce, I did all these that you talked about.

My ex-wife told me two things.

1. Our roles have changed from a couple to parents.
2. I cannot be so self-centred that everything is about me and my dick.

I decided to get divorced, even though it would get me much poorer.

I still have a sexless life and am still a father, but at least I don't have to share a bed with a woman that will not touch me anymore. Her focus changed to our children and, eventually, her lover outside. Someone that is more fun and does not nag at her for spending too much.

you have guts bro. thumbs up to you.

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by redflower7988

seems like it’s a commonality for couples, married or otherwise, to fall into a routine after some years.

i always go this theory that most of the marriages out there are just dead , or barely hanging on.

This is especially true for those 为了结婚而结婚。

[dryar]

Originally Posted by Greenfrog

i always go this theory that most of the marriages out there are just dead , or barely hanging on.

This is especially true for those 为了结婚而结婚。

Or 为了申请 BTO

[itguy2008]

Originally Posted by Greenfrog

you have guts, bro. Thumbs up to you.

If I had guts, I could have solved the problem rather than run away from it.

Divorce is not always the solution; it is just a way to escape it.

Not the right thing to do if you have kids.

[AvadaKedavra]

Originally Posted by dryar

Or 为了申请 BTO

So true hahaha. Pointed out a good one.

[outc4st]

Sorry to hear about that Maxdr21 bro. We all deal with it in our own ways and you did it via finding outlet outside with massages etc. To me, it's 100% justified. I support you. Go and play more to get back and feel better. With the remaining money spend more on child, less on wife.

[sbwow]

Get revenge sex. Go fuck and fuck and fuck and fuck like the whole world owes you. HAHAHA.

[PsyGangnamStyle]

Originally Posted by sbwow

Get revenge sex. Go fuck and fuck and fuck and fuck like the whole world owes you. HAHAHA.

Seems like an idea