Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
In a 10 yrs marriage and didn't have any sex with my wife for last 2+ years due to newborn.
The thought of divorce has crossed the mind so many times but stopped it due to having 2 kids. No longer have any feeling in my wife and now is all about responsibility and commitment. Not sure how long I can last though.
Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
Didn’t know that so many bros are facing the same plight.
Just to share my 2cents: Newly married for 4 years with a 18mth old kid, recently found out my wife been hanging out with her new office colleague, went out with him jogging, dinner, drinking, and even to his house. She’s apologetic and still will accommodate to sex (to reduce her guilt) upon my request. But I find it so disgusted. Didn’t touch her since the incident, more than happy to give the other guy the chance to pleasure her instead.
For the sake of the kid I will hold on. Meanwhile venture out for massage for quick release from time to time with ever different chicks to fulfil my own desires. 那就各玩各的!
Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
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Originally Posted by maxdr21
Didn’t know that so many bros are facing the same plight.
Just to share my 2cents: Newly married for 4 years with a 18mth old kid, recently found out my wife been hanging out with her new office colleague, went out with him jogging, dinner, drinking, and even to his house. She’s apologetic and still will accommodate to sex (to reduce her guilt) upon my request. But I find it so disgusted. Didn’t touch her since the incident, more than happy to give the other guy the chance to pleasure her instead.
For the sake of the kid I will hold on. Meanwhile venture out for massage for quick release from time to time with ever different chicks to fulfil my own desires. 那就各玩各的!
You disgusted with her going out with another guy, but u go out with other chicks for quick release ok?
Didn’t know that so many bros are facing the same plight.
Just to share my 2cents: Newly married for 4 years with a 18mth old kid, recently found out my wife been hanging out with her new office colleague, went out with him jogging, dinner, drinking, and even to his house. She’s apologetic and still will accommodate to sex (to reduce her guilt) upon my request. But I find it so disgusted. Didn’t touch her since the incident, more than happy to give the other guy the chance to pleasure her instead.
For the sake of the kid I will hold on. Meanwhile venture out for massage for quick release from time to time with ever different chicks to fulfil my own desires. 那就各玩各的!
Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
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Originally Posted by airman
How did you find out her cca?
We lead a mundane routines, so anything out of the norm it’s quite obvious. Starting from the constant glued to her phone from day to night (for months) even while beside me she is constantly texting someone (first clue), and she would share how toxic the office culture is by embracing the idea that having office affairs is the norm ppl are seeing each other despite having a partner (second clue) I didn’t dwell further and the news broke out when she returned home one day from her jogging session with her ‘colleague’ but with a sense of showered aroma (third clue). After a few questioning she couldn’t hold up her stories and eventually spill the bean while crying how guilty she felt. I asked to see the convo but she is reluctant, but eventually gave in and the messages sort of confirmed with the constant alluring convo that the guy is asking for more and details of how they both enjoyed the ‘session’.
Nevertheless, the matter dies down and we agreed to put it behind. But we all know this marks a new understanding of our marriage. Whatever happens outside stay out of the family, and we continue to live in harmony happily ever after.
I don’t see this is entirely her mistake, but is partially my fault for not giving her the attention and focuses too much on the kid and work, which contributes to her opening up to someone who is willing to showered her the attention. In any case things alr happened, and I recognised u can never be in control over another person. If u cannot fight them, u join them. And I’m glad I did and I actually found someone else thru online platform who is having the same plight with her hubby and is constantly seeking out man to get even with her hubby. Yet to score but I am working on it lol.
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Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
I am glad that you have move on with the heart ache having been cheated by your wife. This is probably not common but defo does happened.
My ex boss had a similar issue like you. Wife cheated on him. Got a child. But he can't mentally over come this set back. He took his own life.
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Originally Posted by maxdr21
Nevertheless, the matter dies down and we agreed to put it behind. But we all know this marks a new understanding of our marriage. Whatever happens outside stay out of the family, and we continue to live in harmony happily ever after.
I don’t see this is entirely her mistake, but is partially my fault for not giving her the attention and focuses too much on the kid and work, which contributes to her opening up to someone who is willing to showered her the attention. In any case things alr happened, and I recognised u can never be in control over another person. If u cannot fight them, u join them. And I’m glad I did and I actually found someone else thru online platform who is having the same plight with her hubby and is constantly seeking out man to get even with her hubby. Yet to score but I am working on it lol.
Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
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Originally Posted by maxdr21
We lead a mundane routines, so anything out of the norm it’s quite obvious. Starting from the constant glued to her phone from day to night (for months) even while beside me she is constantly texting someone (first clue), and she would share how toxic the office culture is by embracing the idea that having office affairs is the norm ppl are seeing each other despite having a partner (second clue) I didn’t dwell further and the news broke out when she returned home one day from her jogging session with her ‘colleague’ but with a sense of showered aroma (third clue). After a few questioning she couldn’t hold up her stories and eventually spill the bean while crying how guilty she felt. I asked to see the convo but she is reluctant, but eventually gave in and the messages sort of confirmed with the constant alluring convo that the guy is asking for more and details of how they both enjoyed the ‘session’.
Nevertheless, the matter dies down and we agreed to put it behind. But we all know this marks a new understanding of our marriage. Whatever happens outside stay out of the family, and we continue to live in harmony happily ever after.
I don’t see this is entirely her mistake, but is partially my fault for not giving her the attention and focuses too much on the kid and work, which contributes to her opening up to someone who is willing to showered her the attention. In any case things alr happened, and I recognised u can never be in control over another person. If u cannot fight them, u join them. And I’m glad I did and I actually found someone else thru online platform who is having the same plight with her hubby and is constantly seeking out man to get even with her hubby. Yet to score but I am working on it lol.
sorry to hear that bro...did she mention she slept with the guy? or perhaps it was just go his house but hang out, maybe the guy hasn't acted yet (though im sure it was on his mind).
if your wife went to his place, but resisted his advances..then I think kudos to the wife. just my 2 cents...
Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
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Originally Posted by secretlurker88
sorry to hear that bro...did she mention she slept with the guy? or perhaps it was just go his house but hang out, maybe the guy hasn't acted yet (though im sure it was on his mind).
if your wife went to his place, but resisted his advances..then I think kudos to the wife. just my 2 cents...
I really do wish it’s that case. But the wish shattered when its all over the convo of how the guy admired and compliment on her high sex drive and nonstop riding action that makes him jelly the next day. There’s more but i guess you can figured out.
Through the confrontation I did not raise my voice or shout at her, guessed I’m more of in shocked. Only when the surrounding quiets down then I feel abit emo that’s all, that all along I thought I had a wonderful perfect marriage life. This is probably kharma that I used to chiong in the past before marriage, and retribution came back to dealt with me hahaha.
We lead a mundane routines, so anything out of the norm it’s quite obvious. Starting from the constant glued to her phone from day to night (for months) even while beside me she is constantly texting someone (first clue), and she would share how toxic the office culture is by embracing the idea that having office affairs is the norm ppl are seeing each other despite having a partner (second clue) I didn’t dwell further and the news broke out when she returned home one day from her jogging session with her ‘colleague’ but with a sense of showered aroma (third clue). After a few questioning she couldn’t hold up her stories and eventually spill the bean while crying how guilty she felt. I asked to see the convo but she is reluctant, but eventually gave in and the messages sort of confirmed with the constant alluring convo that the guy is asking for more and details of how they both enjoyed the ‘session’.
Nevertheless, the matter dies down and we agreed to put it behind. But we all know this marks a new understanding of our marriage. Whatever happens outside stay out of the family, and we continue to live in harmony happily ever after.
I don’t see this is entirely her mistake, but is partially my fault for not giving her the attention and focuses too much on the kid and work, which contributes to her opening up to someone who is willing to showered her the attention. In any case things alr happened, and I recognised u can never be in control over another person. If u cannot fight them, u join them. And I’m glad I did and I actually found someone else thru online platform who is having the same plight with her hubby and is constantly seeking out man to get even with her hubby. Yet to score but I am working on it lol.
Feel sad hearing your plight. Has she broken off with her colleague after your findings?
Re: Anyone else feels trapped in a cage in a sexless Marriage?
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Feel sad hearing your plight. Has she broken off with her colleague after your findings?
I didn’t ask any further or check on her phone or ask her whereabouts when she head out for late dinner (though she said is with a group but at this point I don’t see that I’m in any position to question her further).
She said to break off clean she will quit her job, as she need to liaise with the guy often in her daily work. she’s on contract term. But guess what, the coy just offered her perm position! Hahaha, what a twist of fate. So I think she is staying for good.
Sometimes I think within a marriage, it’s good to close one eyes, and not to be too controlling or dig too much into each other. For the sake of giving the kid a complete family, I think this is the best arrangement.