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She does not seems to tell me what is really the issue. She kept changing words. Indeed marriage is a lifelong commitment and no 2 person is perfect. It takes adapting and acceptance. Communication is important to understand each other's boundaries. But she refuse to tell me what's wrong. Her parents told me they dunno too. Then how can we resolve? Yesterday she told me to stop using our kid as a reason to continue. See no point in continuing but the fact is kid is always a factor, changes to kid, damage to them, it's one of the main things that will happen. We both love him but why r we not doing the best for him. |
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Keep calm. Do not be confrontational. Use positve engagement instead. No pressure. Give it some time for her to calm down
Then find a good time. Build up the mood. Roses, music, fine wine, her favourite food, plenty of smiles even if inside you are crylng.. Gently lead her from small talk to issues you want to discuss, no holds barred, even discuss about her bf, an open talk, nothing too small or big to discuss, ultimately, only realities to confront... |
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It also comes down to the general idea (which is actually quite correct) that the courts tend to award care and control to the mother and not to the father. Again I was a rare case, I have care and control over both my kids) When women hear about my case they tend to wonder, how badly did my ex wife fuck up that she could lose care and control over the children, she also had zero alimony and only her proportionate share of the house with not a single cent extra In the end, when a divorce happens the courts look at the well-being of the children basis the representations made by each parent. With care and control comes the right of retaining all assets and zero alimony for the wife. |
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Do not rush and try to find out his identity, keep cool as much as possible. Their horniness will lead to carelessness and they will surely arrange to meet. Collect enough evidence, not for the sake of getting a divorce but to display certain aspects of her character in Family Court (if you wish to fight for Care and Control). Remember that Revenge is a dish best served cold. I exposed the identity of my ex-wife's first lover by arranging for the court server to serve his notice to attend court, during morning assembly. He was teaching in a Convent school as a teacher - the school principal straightaway put him on leave and shortly after he lost his job. There isn't much sympathy for people like that. He was single and he fucked another person's wife, so pretty much gg when his identity is revealed. I also learnt that once someone cheats, he or she will surely cheat again. So over time there were more and more third parties and I finally accepted the bitter truth and moved on. Along the way I learnt many useful tips and tricks about the law - I learnt, for example how useless a PPO is and also how to draw the line so you can hurt someone without being arrested. Police are generally sympathetic to the party that they deem to be the "wronged" party and will exercise prosecutorial discretion. |
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Personally I spoke to some of my girlfriends and I had frank conservation with my husband. It seems that men always try to be naughty once in a while. When they go overseas, they love to go to places where there are pretty women who are scantily dressed and they do all kinds of activities. However, they are offended when their wives starts to wear skimpy clothes and head out together. I don’t quite understand the logic. I am quite sure it takes both hands to clap. I have a friend that slogged hard to take care of 2 children and sacrifice her career and become a housewife to take care of her children. In the end, the husband left her for another hotter PRC women and dump both his children to my friend. Her husband also wants to declare bankrupt to avoid paying alimony. Sometimes I attend weddings and I start to think weeding vows becomes more of a formality than sincerity. Kind of scary to just think about all these. Open to hear some perspective. |
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Most of us
(1) wants to have occasional sex with hot milf colleagues, neighbours but doesn’t allow wife to do the same (2) Blame wife for nagging too much and giving too little sex (3) See and get distracted by other big tits/ SYT and slutty face (4) Love other girl because their bbbj/ FJ skill is like prostitutes whereas wife = dead fish
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takes both hands to clap yes its true. just like me being cheated on by my gf of 3 years and we were making marriage plans.
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Eating popcorn and watching porn with good plots. A believer that all guys watch porn. Whichever guy says he doesnt, is lying. |
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the wife is holding the child hostage to force the husband to meet her divorce demands.
the only rationale way to deal with it is to ignore it and soon she will realise that her efforts have failed. Do you have to heart to ignore it and not see your child? or just surrender to her demands. |
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Very interesting perspective |
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probably met women that were not good. i myself divorced because ex wife had flaws that I could not live with
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So you decided? control of the child really depends on the situation, if your wife is able to provide the support, hardly you will get to control as in women chartered, child goes to the mom.
if the child goes to you....will you able to take care of everything? Are you going to save this marriage or not? if she is being unfaithful will you be able to handle the fact once you guys reconciled. Take this time to give yourself a break, do some workout or anything that you desire to do while you wait for her answer. Don't worry too much as worrying can't solve your problem. Life is too short to waste time on worrying. Stay strong improve yourself. All the best to you Bro! |
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You got any flaws she can’t take it?
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Sorry, I find your explanation very contradicting. You said there is no telltale signs yet you said everything changed after she "ran away" 1 year ago. Also that was not the first time she "ran away". How clear a sign do you need?
You said "we were still playing with bb the night b4 happily" but yet "I always felt alone like living with a stranger who doesn't care for me". Maybe you are not thinking clearly because you are in shock. I urge you to calm down and collect your thoughts. In your current conflicting state, you are gonna loose. |
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