Does your wife still have interests in sex?

[Effiel]

Originally Posted by Asakura

sounds as though you guys are not involved in taking care of the kids

I had to disagreed with u, I took care of my kid and did my fair share of chores too. Just that my wife wasn’t that into it anymore, even when we manage to have some free time, it was tv watching and chill. When doing the deed, all requested foreplays was like a paid request, but when into the action my wife still cum like I do so she can’t deny that she doesn’t feel good. Like all bros here I had to beg or outsource for sex. Seems that most women are wired differently than us men and their priority for sex is at the lowest order.

[rotaryshooter]

Originally Posted by Asakura

sounds as though you guys are not involved in taking care of the kids

yes i do. night shift as i wrote. please read.

[gilagila100]

Looks like I am not alone.

My story is the same as the rest.

Before marriage, 2-3 times a week.

After marriage before 1st kid, feel like a breeding bull coz wife trying hard to get pregnant. Did so frequent until I say enough is enough.

After 1st kid, dropped to once a month, somehow still can get the second kid born.

After 2nd kid, can count with 5 fingers for the entire year.

At first, feel frustrated coz not getting it and kept getting rejected when asked. Felt guilty when eating out but again, we might have ended up separated if I didn't eat out. The frustration builds up and temper flares.

Afterwhile, kinda understand the following:

1. No point getting frustrated. It doesn't make me more desirable to my wife and would make things worse.

2. Communicating, negotiating etc. doesn't help if your wife just doesn't feel the urge for sex. No urge means no urge and no urge also means no sex. Must understand from her POV, after coming back from long tough hours at work, need to look after kids. Some still strung up from the emotions and stress from work, not easy to let go and get into the mood. Sex is probably is probably last on her priority list.

3. After eating, no point getting guilty. Getting guilty unlikely to stop you from eating out again. It's a vicious cycle. Just forgive yourself. You are not a saint. Just remember to come home afterwards.

4. Don't compare wife to working ladies. They are professionals who have seen and dealt with more dicks than you can count. Just pay, enjoy and go home.

That's how I remain sane and married all these years.

[isaia]

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[virgonguy]

very well said gilagila

[itguy2008]

Same experience with most bro here.

First kid born, the baby was sleeping in our room like until 1.5 years to 2 years old.

Second kid sleep until 3 years old.

sleeping in between us on the bed. My wife's motherly instinct kicked in. In a lot of ways, my kids are more important than me.

I still remember before we divorce, I asked her a few questions.

1. How often do I get to drive our car to work even though I am the clown paying for it?

2. You are a full time home maker and you need a maid but still complain you are tired, then how about me?

3. Which company and what position am I working in now?

Anyway, instead of communicating or reflecting, she chose the easy way out. Divorce.

[Cyancat]

Originally Posted by itguy2008

Anyway, instead of communicating or reflecting, she chose the easy way out. Divorce.

And got 50% of your assets?

[Ray06]

Originally Posted by ExaltedAngel

Have married near 10 years.. for the last 2 years, i didnt have any session with my wife.
Partly because that I have really lost interest in her as she is really self centered and her on-going behaviors and antics have made me felt disgusted. Would have divorced if not consideration for my kids.
So now i resort to just DIY or outsource once in a very long time.

Very true.
Once we see their real character and behavior the urge to get intimate dies off not to mention the stress/tiredness from work and family issues.

[airman]

Originally Posted by itguy2008

Same experience with most bro here.

First kid born, the baby was sleeping in our room like until 1.5 years to 2 years old.

Second kid sleep until 3 years old.

sleeping in between us on the bed. My wife's motherly instinct kicked in. In a lot of ways, my kids are more important than me.

I still remember before we divorce, I asked her a few questions.

1. How often do I get to drive our car to work even though I am the clown paying for it?

2. You are a full time home maker and you need a maid but still complain you are tired, then how about me?

3. Which company and what position am I working in now?

Anyway, instead of communicating or reflecting, she chose the easy way out. Divorce.

Sad to hear that

How much are you paying alimony? who has the ownership of the flat? Will you remain single from now on?

[AUDIFANSG]

Originally Posted by gilagila100

Looks like I am not alone.

My story is the same as the rest.

Before marriage, 2-3 times a week.

After marriage before 1st kid, feel like a breeding bull coz wife trying hard to get pregnant. Did so frequent until I say enough is enough.

After 1st kid, dropped to once a month, somehow still can get the second kid born.

After 2nd kid, can count with 5 fingers for the entire year.

At first, feel frustrated coz not getting it and kept getting rejected when asked. Felt guilty when eating out but again, we might have ended up separated if I didn't eat out. The frustration builds up and temper flares.

Afterwhile, kinda understand the following:

1. No point getting frustrated. It doesn't make me more desirable to my wife and would make things worse.

2. Communicating, negotiating etc. doesn't help if your wife just doesn't feel the urge for sex. No urge means no urge and no urge also means no sex. Must understand from her POV, after coming back from long tough hours at work, need to look after kids. Some still strung up from the emotions and stress from work, not easy to let go and get into the mood. Sex is probably is probably last on her priority list.

3. After eating, no point getting guilty. Getting guilty unlikely to stop you from eating out again. It's a vicious cycle. Just forgive yourself. You are not a saint. Just remember to come home afterwards.

4. Don't compare wife to working ladies. They are professionals who have seen and dealt with more dicks than you can count. Just pay, enjoy and go home.

That's how I remain sane and married all these years.

IM in a similar situation here. just had our first kid and wife sexs drive down ALOT. Been eating out but felt damn guilty after each time. Trying to quit eating out but found it very difficult. Does your wife suspect ur outside adventures?

[sammyboyforumm]

Originally Posted by fac89

Fellow samsters, what do u do if your wife is no long interested in sex? Do u beg, outsource or live your life with it?

Sharing abit if our sex life. Before marriage, sex was as frequent as daily 1 to 2 shot inclusive of role play, bondages, toys, video taking and watching porn together etc. After marriage become like 1 shot every alternate day. 8 yrs after marriage with kid is like 2-3 times for whole of 2022. Every sessions like she was being raped. Although every sessions were still good and can see that she enjoyed it as well but dislike having to beg for sex yet gt rejected every now and then. I still love my wife and has been outsourcing for past few years. Doesn't like this feeling but i am a healthy male and has my urge.

Any samsters here experiencing the same?

Maybe she’s getting outside too

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by sammyboyforumm

Maybe she’s getting outside too

If the wife can tolerate no sex for many years, it is fishy indeed. Women also have biological needs. Low sex drive is just an excuse. If you eat out everyday until no need her, your wife also will become suspicious.

[hhlover]

Jus wondering for all the bros here tat didnt have enough sex with wife..
R ur wife singaporean?
If the answer is Yes.. tat is the main problem with how singapore girls is being teach n grow up with..
As a wife their main task is look after kids n work.. sex with husband is not a task they need to do.
Unlike girls from viet, thai, phil, giving sex to husband is one of their main task as wife too beside looking after kids or work..

[itguy2008]

Originally Posted by airman

Sad to hear that

How much are you paying alimony? who has the ownership of the flat? Will you remain single from now on?

1. How much are you paying alimony? - Give you a percentage of my salary better. It is about 60%, including the fees to support the two boys. The scary part is not the alimony but also half my assets. Luckily she is not that greedy and did not ask for too much.

2. who has ownership of the flat? - She has it. The children need shelter over their heads.

3. Will you remain single from now on? - Definitely. Female's instinct change after they have children. They become a mother and forget about being a wife or a girlfriend or a lover.

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by hhlover

Jus wondering for all the bros here tat didnt have enough sex with wife..
R ur wife singaporean?
If the answer is Yes.. tat is the main problem with how singapore girls is being teach n grow up with..
As a wife their main task is look after kids n work.. sex with husband is not a task they need to do.
Unlike girls from viet, thai, phil, giving sex to husband is one of their main task as wife too beside looking after kids or work..

Rubbish lah. If your wife treat you as a task means she’s not enjoying it. Imagine you forced to fuck a bui bui lao auntie. 100% guaranteed you will cheat on her and truly enjoy the sex with other sweet young things.