Divorce settlement data - WC education thread

[xiaobudian8123]

Originally Posted by guess67

I have never asked for maintenance from my ex, so I can ask now?

with valid reasons maybe ? can try ? lol

[xiaobudian8123]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

Of course, I only pay to maintain my kid, not my ex-wife.

wife agree to this term ? or was it contested ?

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

The outcome of Bro HonkyTonkyMan's case was unusual (even himself admitted it, when we were discussing in another thread). I did asked about his outcome with my relative who was still practising then. It was quite well known within the legal fraternity.

The thing is his outcome was not the norm, why it happened like that...well I am not a judge so...

Bro HonkyTonkyMan always refer to his own divorce (like me); that is more responsible, drawing on one's own experience for reference rather than hearsay.

I would rather read what he posted and then check with the lawyer to make it don't happen (to me).

yea bro even when i went to vary maintenance order, end of the day the fuck up judge ask me to pay all the cost even the other side, something which my lawyer told me was unusual as the norm is each side to bear their own..

end of the day i realized one thing, in the court of law there is really no such thing as truth, its who has the better and more convincing lawyer able to turn black into white..that why good lawyers are paid so much..likewise any affidavit you submit to court, sure you can sumpah on it and say its the truth but who can really verify, its not the court duty they just take your word for it, you can say its an chargeable offense, truth, if the other party don't believe it their job to try and find out and dig the dirt..end of the day the court process is still a money game..who can pay and stay the course, the truth is on his side..

[HonkyTonkyMan]

Originally Posted by larue

That's unfortunate for Honky, and as you and he said later, unusual.

The norm is that once the quantum of spousal maintenance is ascertained, it takes unusual circumstances to get it varied, and it is certainly not a case of an ex wife being able to claim more purely on a 'dont want to work' basis.

Perhaps he could share more about his situation in the interest of information sharing.

bro just for context when i say "don't want to work" i don't mean in the sense just one day stop and laze around do nothing but collect maintenance, of course the court will assess everyone situation but as i post earlier, what is truth or not no one knows, everyone looking out for their own interest...

[larue]

Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

bro just for context when i say "don't want to work" i don't mean in the sense just one day stop and laze around do nothing but collect maintenance, of course the court will assess everyone situation but as i post earlier, what is truth or not no one knows, everyone looking out for their own interest...

That's what it sounded like, and that is really not useful for anyone seeking to get general advice on divorce matters.

Anyway all the best to you, and happy to buy you a drink by way of apology.

[benjm85]

Hi anyone can intro a good divorce lawyer?
Some background :
Married more than 10 years
2 kids: 6 and 12
Family expenses and mortgage loan all fully paid by me
I earn more than my wife
Reason for divorce: Wife has big gambling issues.

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Hi anyone can intro a good divorce lawyer?
Some background :
Married more than 10 years
2 kids: 6 and 12
Family expenses and mortgage loan all fully paid by me
I earn more than my wife
Reason for divorce: Wife has big gambling issues.

not lawyer to intro you.
but: Wife has big gambling issues - do you have proof to show it in court?
if so, child custody very much goes to you

[benjm85]

Originally Posted by fallen11

not lawyer to intro you.
but: Wife has big gambling issues - do you have proof to show it in court?
if so, child custody very much goes to you

Have receipt to show I help her pay the legal moneylenders..

[airman]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Hi anyone can intro a good divorce lawyer?
Some background :
Married more than 10 years
2 kids: 6 and 12
Family expenses and mortgage loan all fully paid by me
I earn more than my wife
Reason for divorce: Wife has big gambling issues.

betting big on 4D & TOTO or she goes to gambling dens?

[benjm85]

Originally Posted by airman

betting big on 4D & TOTO or she goes to gambling dens?

Not about 4d and toto bro..bigger stuff..

[verywet]

Originally Posted by fallen11

not lawyer to intro you.
but: Wife has big gambling issues - do you have proof to show it in court?
if so, child custody very much goes to you

ya and probably no need give maintenance to her if divorced. i think.

[verywet]

Originally Posted by benjm85

Have receipt to show I help her pay the legal moneylenders..

receipt to pay doesnt show the use of the money. not strong enough in my opinion. if got concrete proof would be better. photos of her in casino etc. 4D TOTO receipts in big amounts?

[kayakracer]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

Of course, I only pay to maintain my kid, not my ex-wife.

good to know. but this will need lawyer to help fight for it ? if normal divorce, usually maintenance will include for ex wife also ?

[yaowaratboy]

Originally Posted by bsicassecd

Likely will remarry if they have kid?

that is another possibility. age though will be a consideration unless shotgun lol