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I am in a relationship with a partner way younger than me.
So financially I am of course more able to spend and I am working and she still studying.
But after about a month or so into the relationship, I feel like me paying for everything getting taken for granted.
How do I handle this situation without getting into a fight and breaking up?
Look. This is a transaction. Nothing more, nothing less. Usually any woman who don't really like you that much, cannot maintain their façade all the time.
These are "gaps". No point talking this to that girl. If you do so, you unintentionally giving them alerts. Time for a new one and put this in the recycling bin. NEXT!
I am in a relationship with a partner way younger than me.
So financially I am of course more able to spend and I am working and she still studying.
But after about a month or so into the relationship, I feel like me paying for everything getting taken for granted.
How do I handle this situation without getting into a fight and breaking up?
Unfortunately, finding a girl where you don't pay for most stuff and don't feel like you're being taken for granted is considered an outlier. This is because the social norm is for the guy to provide, made even more pronounced when you're working and she isn't.
If you're feeling this now, just weigh if she's worth feeling like this for a long period. If not, try sounding it out, maybe it's not her intention. Otherwise, maybe find someone you're more comfortable with. But I'll tell u, it's a culture that guy's spending will always get taken for granted, just maybe it's to a lesser degree for some.
I am in a relationship with a partner way younger than me.
So financially I am of course more able to spend and I am working and she still studying.
But after about a month or so into the relationship, I feel like me paying for everything getting taken for granted.
How do I handle this situation without getting into a fight and breaking up?
Why are you with a younger partner? Because you like her youth and beauty and energy right? Why do you think she is with you, an older partner. Because she values stability and financial resources. You both bring your assets to the table. If you withdraw yours, what are you really offering? That is the transactional way of looking at it, which by your post is your view.
Another way of looking at it is each partner brings what they have to offer and open heartedly share it with the one they love. In that case you dont keep track of spending especially on things you also enjoy doing. This is a much happier way to live.
Why are you with a younger partner? Because you like her youth and beauty and energy right? Why do you think she is with you, an older partner. Because she values stability and financial resources. You both bring your assets to the table. If you withdraw yours, what are you really offering? That is the transactional way of looking at it, which by your post is your view.
Another way of looking at it is each partner brings what they have to offer and open heartedly share it with the one they love. In that case you dont keep track of spending especially on things you also enjoy doing. This is a much happier way to live.
agreed. women choose older man due to financial stability reasons. just expect something in return, bj marathon perhaps?
Why are you with a younger partner? Because you like her youth and beauty and energy right? Why do you think she is with you, an older partner. Because she values stability and financial resources. You both bring your assets to the table. If you withdraw yours, what are you really offering? That is the transactional way of looking at it, which by your post is your view.
Another way of looking at it is each partner brings what they have to offer and open heartedly share it with the one they love. In that case you dont keep track of spending especially on things you also enjoy doing. This is a much happier way to live.
thanks bro. this made me a more clear headed. i guess its my first time dating someone with this age gap and i compared to the working age women i used to date. this really helped me. would up u if i could haha
Why are you with a younger partner? Because you like her youth and beauty and energy right? Why do you think she is with you, an older partner. Because she values stability and financial resources. You both bring your assets to the table. If you withdraw yours, what are you really offering? That is the transactional way of looking at it, which by your post is your view.
Another way of looking at it is each partner brings what they have to offer and open heartedly share it with the one they love. In that case you dont keep track of spending especially on things you also enjoy doing. This is a much happier way to live.
bro here is right.
i would like to add in though humans are habitual creatures especially a girl so young (depending on her maturity). she may unintentionally, due to constant niceness from you take it for granted out of habit. long run may be harmful to the relationship. so you need to think how to balance. life is about balance.
11-07-2023, 10:28 PM
Re: How to handle?
