Marrying A Thai ger

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by Charmaine

Oh by the way: is it only true that you will only be "invited" to see her parents back in their hometown province if they're sure that you're the one they're going to marry? Does it resemble anything like dating in the modern era, where 18-year old kids "bring" their boyfriends back to see her folks only to change a new partner right after? Is this whole "bringing a man home" thing a big deal in Thai culture?

Yes when the girls said they going to bring u back to see their parents mean that they are serious. on the other hand it may not be also. so u had to see for urself.

i can said 80% of the time it true. there always a "but"

if u go hotel and stay. she never bring u back home n stay etc then better watch out. there are incident when the girl bring the guy back home n said this is her mother this is her bro. in actual fact is her in law n husband. so it up to u to open ur eyes n see.

[Charmaine]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

Yes when the girls said they going to bring u back to see their parents mean that they are serious. on the other hand it may not be also. so u had to see for urself.

i can said 80% of the time it true. there always a "but"

if u go hotel and stay. she never bring u back home n stay etc then better watch out. there are incident when the girl bring the guy back home n said this is her mother this is her bro. in actual fact is her in law n husband. so it up to u to open ur eyes n see.

Thanks for the clarification pussyman72. I'm only asking because I brought up this question to her and all she could say was "No, not yet.."

I didn't think it would be such a big deal. What's the issue with bringing someone home just to say hi? I've a lot to learn.

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by Charmaine

Thanks for the clarification pussyman72. I'm only asking because I brought up this question to her and all she could say was "No, not yet.."

I didn't think it would be such a big deal. What's the issue with bringing someone home just to say hi? I've a lot to learn.

Next time let the girl ask u whether u wanna go back her hometown or not and not u asking it. it will be better. If they want u to go back with them they will ask u.

2nd thing try to stay in her hometown for 1 to 2 weeks to look ard and see for urself. well seeing cant do much why bcos if u dont understand what they talking is also a problem. anyway i try not to said they are cheating u or what but just open ur eyes to see.

3rd thing if u happen to bring extra $$$ just keep quiet dont need to said ^^ else later u bleed hehehehehe if ur dear understand ur money is hard to earn she will help out also.

4th before u go there try to understand thai custom cos u dont want to offend pple things that u do. anyway they will understand also cos we are not thai.

lastly just enjoy the trip when u are there. country side is so much better then city. hehehe aye for me i love country side very very much cos i prefer quiet places.

chookdee krup

[rapebill]

the countryside I stayed at has no internet access, no EPL and nothing to do at nite except to sleep early and make love.

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by rapebill

the countryside I stayed at has no internet access, no EPL and nothing to do at nite except to sleep early and make love.

hehehe yea but i believe can get ur own phone line and get internet access. quite x. about 1k baht for 1MB link download link 1mb upload link 500mb

other then that ard 7pm quite dark liao nothing to do just watch tv and sleep. when im there usually sleep ard 9 to 10pm but sometime we go out to town come back late at nite about 12 to 1am.

during the day i sit at home play with my dogs and help out my dear on housework. Afternoon 3pm go fetch my aunty daughter from school.

they usually will come stay with us when im around but every few day aunty sure come over n ask the daughter go back so my dear n i can have some private moment

[mao86]

guys..here goes my story...

i noe this gurl at geylang lah... starting hor.. its lyk simply juz customer and chicken relation lah... but slowly tings changes alot in the sense that she xchange phone number wif mi and i tot all we could b is just a friend...

Then we both develop feelings for each other loh.. at that time i bluff her say i 27 actuali i am 22 cos i wanna play only.. and she is 30 lah ! U noe i dont noe y i begin falling for her .. maybe is it love potion ?.. Well i remember she went back to thailand and while i am in spore, she keep calling mi loh.. ask mi darling how r u and i miss u alot..
The best part came is that i went to taiwan and she also continue to call mi and even want mi to report strength to her loh... well i start faling a bit for her at tat time... back in spore.. worst still she cook for mi almost everydae loh.. and besides that she would call mi also everydae..then also i remember that gt 1 time.. she juz dun wanna work and then she just call mi and say she wanna go wif mi.. she dun wan work any more le.
Well i begin to love her alot... buy things for her loh.. then tis yr march i told her my real age and we went back to thailand,bangkok wif her to @@ her siblings and parents.. Its my 1st time going there, so i was very excited and happy. I met her siblings they all and even her frienzs lah..they are all very friendly and good people... then half wae u all noe wt mah.. when the family dinner ended, the brother tok to mi that my gf gt a daughter in bangkok and he is taking care of her..at that time i was quite shock lah..but then bo bian love her so i accept the fact loh..Besides that i promise the brother that i will love her and take care daughter 2gather. The brother was so touch then he cry and hug mi.. so funi
That nite she was damm drunk so i take care of her back to Ratchada city hotel ..then took care of her the whole nite loh...i neber even slp... nxt mrning when she woke up, her attitude changes le..dunoe y lyk a diff person loh...hai..we had sort of a tiff over there and then she went out to walk walk and look for a condo cos she wana live alone.. I still remember that she rent a condo in lao phao.. then that dae was thursdae..and she last minute tell mi say that sundae she wana go find work in bangkok so wana mi go back the nxt dae.. imagine a person u love.. tell u tis when u flew there all the wae for her... i meanz i flew to bangkok on tuesdae nite.. actuali i intend go 4daes then she ask mi xtend to 1 wk .. then i say okie.. then last minute.. call u go back... like i her slave ! This meanz that i onli go there for 3daes onli...and i did not go anywhere for shopping and its my 1st time goin there..so sux loh..
Lan Lan on the thursdae nite we drink alot in the hotel i ask her y she do this 2 mi...she say i @@ so young.. then also.. say she lyk old old man cos gt $$.. i was damm pissed off .. i didnt even want to sleep on the same bed as her so i drink and smoke thru out the nite and i cry so much while staring at the stars thinking that i make a very very big mistake.. The nxt mrn.. when she still slping i secretly took my bag and run.. but she caught up wif mi... and say that she will send mi to the airport!
Well in the sense that u tink lah.. sunday bangkok office normally dun work wan.. then i was waiting 4 her to tell mi the truth lah... but then at the airport she juz say take care and bye bye! I was damm sad lah... sit on the plane crying so much, thinking y she do lyk tis.. cos i gib up alot of things for her le.. then my frienz tell mi that she is juz a chicken and i am a middle class y do i fall for her... and her temper is so bad.. and becos of her i lose alot of things...but i cant regret cos i make the choice.
That dae she still call mi say baby sick nid $$... then i send her also...cos i still love her abit.. then at the back say nid $$ again.. actuali i have but i dun wan send ani more.. cos she treating mi lyk atm... then she lyk doesnt love mi loh...y do tis stupid shit.. U noe wt she say y i nt same same my frienz lah.. sending $1k 2 her gf(my thai gf friend).. of course i where gt so stupid.. u noe the $1k my frienz send is use to financially support his thai gf husband in thailand loh..! fark up rite.. till nw i haben tell my frienz yet i scare he canot accept it lah..

Guys i tell u all lah.. nw i also abit scare thai gurl le.. i still love her a bit but she no good lyk tat loh...
and u all noe i spent alot for my trip in bangkok....n i neber even buy aniting

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

Yes when the girls said they going to bring u back to see their parents mean that they are serious. on the other hand it may not be also. so u had to see for urself.

i can said 80% of the time it true. there always a "but"

if u go hotel and stay. she never bring u back home n stay etc then better watch out. there are incident when the girl bring the guy back home n said this is her mother this is her bro. in actual fact is her in law n husband. so it up to u to open ur eyes n see.

True... Used to have a tirak who always asked me to go back with her to see her mother n father.. she even mms her family photo to me....

But I never did went back with her to her family. Did not want to give empty promise her since I know she n I cannot be together anyway.. Told her not to wait and she cried... Got to open yor eyes to see .. Thais sometimes are very good actoress or actor..

Anyway got friends ganna carrot also when their tiraks bring them back to their village or family and turns out to be her husband... lol... scary...

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by mao86

guys..here goes my story...
Well in the sense that u tink lah.. sunday bangkok office normally dun work wan.. then i was waiting 4 her to tell mi the truth lah... but then at the airport she juz say take care and bye bye! I was damm sad lah... sit on the plane crying so much, thinking y she do lyk tis.. cos i gib up alot of things for her le.. then my frienz tell mi that she is juz a chicken and i am a middle class y do i fall for her... and her temper is so bad.. and becos of her i lose alot of things...but i cant regret cos i make the choice.
That dae she still call mi say baby sick nid $$... then i send her also...cos i still love her abit.. then at the back say nid $$ again.. actuali i have but i dun wan send ani more.. cos she treating mi lyk atm... then she lyk doesnt love mi loh...y do tis stupid shit.. U noe wt she say y i nt same same my frienz lah.. sending $1k 2 her gf(my thai gf friend).. of course i where gt so stupid.. u noe the $1k my frienz send is use to financially support his thai gf husband in thailand loh..! fark up rite.. till nw i haben tell my frienz yet i scare he canot accept it lah..

Very familiar... seems most of us will kana such things if u have a thai gf. anyway glad that u have see the lights...

Although the truth is hard to accept, I still think that you should tell your friend.... if u consider him as your buddy...

Its better to tell him now rather than he knows it later. Time will heal him..

[mao86]

ani wae i didnt contact him 4 sumtime le... he still quite obessed wif the gurl.. he tinks that i am the 1 whu did nt treat my gf gd....

[pussyman72]

think this story should be posted in What do they "mean" when your Thai GF says ...... instead of here. this thread talk about marry thai ger. it not related at all

[Charmaine]

I feel for you, because I was in the exact same situation as yourself. She probably wasn't trying to trick you intentionally before she met you, but I feel that you really made the wrong move by not being truthful with her from the very beginning.

[Alkano]

Guys, i am facing a dilemma at this moments.
Me and ger have a bit of issue on $$.
After that day which is last friday, i have not heard from her since.
I have been smsing her but no reply.
Has she turn cold on me?
I am open to any suggestions to resolve this.
Many thks in advance.

[rapebill]

Originally Posted by Alkano

Guys, i am facing a dilemma at this moments.
Me and ger have a bit of issue on $$.
After that day which is last friday, i have not heard from her since.
I have been smsing her but no reply.
Has she turn cold on me?
I am open to any suggestions to resolve this.
Many thks in advance.

call her and talk about the weather etc
before leading to the real issue.
then just hear her entirely out on her inputs on the $$$ issue

[rapebill]

in my last visit, my wife told me her uncles/aunties/neighbours asked why I am visiting every month. Seems that they don't expect a foreign husband to visit so frequently

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by rapebill

in my last visit, my wife told me her uncles/aunties/neighbours asked why I am visiting every month. Seems that they don't expect a foreign husband to visit so frequently

Well if u can afford the airfare and expenses in the long run, better u go visit yor wife every month... wait she lagi.. get extra activities.. not saying that u do not trust yor wife. Just that, its their cutlure...

Bettter get yor wife to stay with u best.