Marrying A Thai ger

[dyelook]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

When you're an adult, the ability to control oneself reflects your upbringing. Throwing tantrums is a huge giveaway.

bro peter north..

i agree with you but i'll rather they throw tantrums then taking a knife to cut my family jewels when i'm asleep...

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by dyelook

bro peter north..

i agree with you but i'll rather they throw tantrums then taking a knife to cut my family jewels when i'm asleep...

Then you're not agreeing with me at all

We're adopting different benchmarks.

[dyelook]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

Then you're not agreeing with me at all

We're adopting different benchmarks.

haha, bro peter north...

different benchmarks = different opinion = more story

[Nonteerak2553]

Originally Posted by dyelook

bro nonteerak...

i think mostly ladies do loh... or should i say mostly PEOPLE do loh... no matter what sex,age or nationality, try anger them to unbearable situation any PERSON in this world will explode... otherwise there won't be so many news about lovers killing each others..

btw, bro nonteerak... why not tell bro's here a little bit more of your story

khor trun mak mak na... chan bpren khun BUSYBODY

I don't agreed with you on this part, if a person with proper upbringing, he or she will not get agitated or get angry, or shouting back at the lover for just merely telling them off.

Lovers killing each other as far as concern, they were caught being unfaithful or adulterer. If killing each other just merely being shouted at, then I think, in the first place there already a personal vendetta issue between them.

[Nonteerak2553]

Pii dyelook,

Just for you, here my story goes,


Knew her in her tour of duty when she was here to do photoshoot during late 07. Before we start of as a couple, she told me that she sick and tired falling in love, but I manage to win her heart eventually, and it took me alot of time and patience. She was a freelance model. If you do watch thai larkorn, her look does resembly the famous actress PANCAKE. I only discovered her face which resembly PANCAKE when my second trip to Krung Thep, while watching thai larkon with her.

There alot beautiful memories rather then bad ones, we quarrel quite frequent over the after she realized that I loves her more. But the quarrel doesn't lead to break up, which is good.


Recently during Songkran, her temper suddenly changed. She become tempermental thru out my 15 days of trip. There also one time she even left me alone for whole day at home, after we had a big quarrel. Normally even her mistake I would called her up after 2 hrs later but this time it's her sister who called me up asking me to go out for "gin kao". That whole night she just couldn't be bother to go home. The next day she called me and asked if I wish to see her again as my flight was at 1700 hrs. Of course I agreed to see her.
But her reaction toward me was cold. At the departure gate I need to seek her permission to hug her whereas last time it's her who hugged me first.

Reached sillypore, my called being rejected by her till last week Fri, able to talk to her reason, she was really angry at me.

Now that made me wondering was it a thai atittude or behavior that she portray against me.

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by dyelook

haha, bro peter north...

different benchmarks = different opinion = more story

Supposing you've a son, and he came back from school telling you that he scored 40 points for his Maths test. You're disappointed that he failed his Maths test. But your son is going to say to you this:

"You should be glad that I didn't score a big fat zero for Maths."

Now, are you supposed to feel comforted ?

If you're going to tell your son, say, "I'd rather you score 40 than zero", then I doubt your son will ever excel in Maths in the future.

It's a different opinion, of course. But the truth remains - the fact that your son didn't return with a big fat zero doesn't itself make his 40/100 look good. It's still a big failure.

So even if the girl was "kind" enough not to have reached out for a knife to cause bodily harm, it doesn't change the fact that her throwing tantrums at the slightest provocation is a reflection of her poor upbringing.

Of course you're at liberty to indulge in whatever bad character traits that she exhibits, but your indulgence, for whatever motivation you may have, ranging from patience to weakness, must not mask the fact that bad apples are bad apples.

[Peter_North]

This is Nonteerak2553's girlfriend:

[Nonteerak2553]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

This is Nonteerak2553's girlfriend:

555+ Chai Krup, her face really resembly PANCAKE!!

[Peter_North]

And this, the heart of Nonteerak2553, after Pancake left:

[yinyang]

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

if a person with proper upbringing, he or she will not get agitated or get angry, or shouting back at the lover for just merely telling them off.

Originally Posted by Peter_Northall

the gentleness with endless, ka, ka, and zha, zha....they're all a mere facade ?

May reflect upbringing (pedigree family and all that), but surely it's also about makeup of the girl's personality, hot headed or not? Yo, it's facade of all the soft kas that covers sulking and tantrums (the hi-sos are not immune to this).

Face is important to thais (if you do not know that by now). And doesn't nonteerak's shouting at her constitute losing his cool and her losing face?

Originally Posted by dyelook

a knife to cut my family jewels when i'm asleep

Just keep that icepack nearby. But no use if they feed it to the ducks, or worse still make soup (as 1 tg I know joked)

[Nonteerak2553]

Originally Posted by Peter_North

And this, the heart of Nonteerak2553, after Pancake left:

This heart image doesn't telly with my real heart. 555+
Right now we are still remain as couple, promise each other that the incident during songkran shouldn't happen any time in future.

[Nonteerak2553]

Pii yingyang,

I knew that face are very important for the Thais, but I didn't know that shouting at my gf inside her house make her lose face. In that case I shall not repeat it any time future in any case.

[yinyang]

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

I knew that face are very important for the Thais, but I didn't know that shouting at my gf inside her house make her lose face. In that case I shall not repeat it any time future in any case.

Oh, hope for you it's not other way around. Chok dee (and chai yen)

[Peter_North]

Originally Posted by Nonteerak2553

Pii yingyang,

I knew that face are very important for the Thais, but I didn't know that shouting at my gf inside her house make her lose face. In that case I shall not repeat it any time future in any case.

I believe both of us would agree that she had a valid reason to be upset or even angry. Then again we're not disputing her right to feel upset or angry; when we spoke about the topic of upbringing it's not about the right to feel angry but the manner in which she reacted to her anger, and whether such reaction was proportional to the reason for her being upset.

"Face" is very important for the Thais, but it can be smothered by this thing called Baht. That often is a good gauge of how much the face is worth

[Nonteerak2553]

Pii Peter_North,

Based on your input I have read in this thread, seem you are very experience in thai relationship. And you learnt your PASA THAI from isaan native. Does your thai girlfriend or wife from isaan province? If you don't mind me being busybody. 555+