Marrying A Thai ger - Page 106

anathem · #**1576** 19-06-2009, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by DO_I_BJ

girls are universal. only good ones and bad ones. Nationality doesn't affect their complex mind structures....

But i believe. If one really loves someone. He/She will become sticky. You cannot control it... its just love.

Heh. And men are equally universal too. Only you can either choose between assholes or bores. Hahaha, it's not just about 'Thai women' vs. 'Singaporean women', really. Is there such a big gulf between women and men in the first place? I can't exactly say for sure.

Stickiness? Obsession and neediness aren't always that readily easy to distinguish or peel away from 'love'. Maybe it's true that in some circumstances, they are intrinsic to the 4-letter L-word. But I think a line can still often be drawn. Ugliness is just, well, ugly. Why go down that path, for what you call 'love'?

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Originally Posted by Charmaine

Hey, I was just being cheeky. If you're in a current relationship with a local girl, I beg that you do not feel offended by my insinuations. This is a forum, not the United Nations Congress.

I do hope I'm entitled, after a long day at work, to come in here and let loose a little stress! The world's already too serious as it is. I've just lost a girlfriend - cut me some slack.

Local girls do have their strengths - everyone here is guilty, in general, of stereotyping and I'm simply confessing to being lazy enough not to end off every comment with "it's just my own my personal opinion guys - take it easy". I've been in relationships with slightly less than half a dozen Singapore girls, and my latest was with a beautiful, mature, insightful Thai-Chinese, but no matter I guess - they're all the same breed. Girls will be girls.

I've been in a failed relationship with a Thai. It's the only pan-island relationship I've ever been in, but it's the most beautiful, exotic, romantic one ever. I'm 31, so I've seen some. But you know, it's just my own personal opinion. Take it easy.

Bro, I truly meant no offence, seriously. Please do not misunderstand. I've come across many of your diatribes and potshots against 'local girls'. Half the time, I figure you're just taking the piss. The other half, I'm not so sure. But either way, it does not offend my sensibilities in any manner.

No la, you got me wrong. I do not have any vested or personal interest in this. I am not in any relationship currently so this really isn't 'my fight' in whatever case. But even if I were stuck in one with some local woman, it still wouldn't be. Let me provide an example. I used to be in this complicated pseudo-relationship with this chick covered head to toe (almost literally) in tattoos. Although I was very, very much in love with her, I never felt any iota of defensiveness when people mouth off unkind remarks about those folks with a penchant for body art. You can't stop people from being prejudiced or having limited perspectives. Why bother? Why take everything so personally? Why stick your neck out in pointless battles? Unless the remarks were really and truly personally-directed and nasty in a totally uncalled for way, I simply wouldn't care.

The same applies to myself. You can insult my 'race', ethnicity and nationality or cast aspersions on my background and I wouldn't feel a thing. Why give a damn about the small-mindedness of assorted imbeciles? So what if I am male, Singaporean, Chinese, half-Cantonese, half-Hakka, an atheist, of humble working class origins, having only studied in truly horrible neighborhood schools, never got a scholarship of any sort, wasn't a commissioned officer in NS, only got a second-rate degree from a local university, et cetera. If someone is going to tell me that I am just crap, defective or second-class based on these little nuggets of biographical information, so be it. I'm tired of fighting stereotypes. Challenge me directly and I'll tear up your assumptions or debunk you to a tee. But feel free to divide people that way otherwise. And I just won't do the same in return. Anyway, categories and labels are meaningless in so many ways. And membership in them is both inscribed and ascribed. I don't give a fXXk about the Singapore Dream. Don't lecture me about 'Singaporean-ness' or 'Asian-ness' or expect me to defend these empty (yet loaded) labels that I choose to actively defy. Unless one's attacks step beyond the line and embroil personal shit like parents and all, I think we should all accept the diversity (and stupidity) of the world with an equal dose of good faith, tolerance and skepticism.

Foolish and childish, perhaps. Anyhow, Bro, you will always be entitled to your opinions and your right to express them. Don't get me wrong, I certainly wasn't trying to censure them. Hell, I even enjoy them.

I was only humbly expressing my opinion too, hope you don't mind.

And yes, I never take anything on this forum too seriously either.

By the way, thanks for the points. I am still a few points short of getting my first rep power so I can't quite up you back yet. Of course, what is '1' compared to '8' though. Apples and oranges. Hahaha, and I hope your ex didn't tear out a chunk of your heart when she left. Women...they can be such hurtful, mercurial things...

FL Lover · #**1577** 19-06-2009, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by city.people

Wa,u bing em jia lan lei u.u talk like u know all Thai gers personalities. But remember,Thai gers or not,everybody have their own characteristics,u keep your these type of opinions of them to yourself and i keep mine too. NO NEED to go around telling people here they are this,they are that,thats your own bloody opinion,doh............lol

Bro, do you know what you are talking abt? KNN. I am here telling some bros what they want to know abt Thai gers...

Did u actually red my thread before u start opening yor fat mouth? In the first place, I already tell pple that I am here not to sterotype the gers. KNN..... As for your on fucking opinion, seriously I am not interested to know. Whether I tell pple abt my experience abt thai, y? U fucking eye red?

Instead of trying to start a flamewar in here, y dont u put your mouth into a thai ger pussy? U will get "song" and I dont even have to bother pple like you.

Get a life lah.

Charmaine · #**1578** 19-06-2009, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by anathem

I hope your ex didn't tear out a chunk of your heart when she left

Tell me about it.

She changed her MSN name to

"Where do broken hearts go? Can they find their way home, back into the open arms of the love that's waiting there?"

which absolutely buffled me. She's obviously talking about us, obviously haven't got over our break-up, but she was the very person whose chose to end everything in the first place!

I'm hurt, she's hurt - wouldn't it be easier to just say "Hey, let's give this another try"? Nooooooo. It's more fun to hurt together, isn't it?

Women aren't from Venus - they must have been from Uranus or somewhere even further away. They must be. I can't for the life of me figure them out. Not in this lifetime. I'm not trying anymore.

goodpartner · #**1579** 19-06-2009, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Charmaine

"Where do broken hearts go? Can they find their way home, back into the open arms of the love that's waiting there?"

Bro, you may have mistaken her if you consider the rest of the lyrics and not just the chorus...

Whitney Houston - Where Do Broken Hearts Go - Lyrics from LyricWiki

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We said we needed space
But all we found was an empty place
And the only things i've learned
Is that i need you desperately

city.people · #**1580** 20-06-2009, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by FL Lover

Bro, do you know what you are talking abt? KNN. I am here telling some bros what they want to know abt Thai gers...

Did u actually red my thread before u start opening yor fat mouth? In the first place, I already tell pple that I am here not to sterotype the gers. KNN..... As for your on fucking opinion, seriously I am not interested to know. Whether I tell pple abt my experience abt thai, y? U fucking eye red?

Instead of trying to start a flamewar in here, y dont u put your mouth into a thai ger pussy? U will get "song" and I dont even have to bother pple like you.

Get a life lah.

just skipped reading your above worthless comments and straight to the point in bold.

stick your mcb comments back into your ass back la.dont talk like u know thai gers as if everyone of them is your mother and gave birth yo u.

not happy?there's always the PM function to use if u know what i mean hor

FL Lover · #**1581** 22-06-2009, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by city.people

just skipped reading your above worthless comments and straight to the point in bold.

stick your mcb comments back into your ass back la.dont talk like u know thai gers as if everyone of them is your mother and gave birth yo u.

not happy?there's always the PM function to use if u know what i mean hor

PM U FOR FUCK? KNN. FIRST OF ALL, YOU DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON and dare to talk cock in here? Go and fucking read my postings first. Dont know what is going on and want to put your leg into here.

Also do my comments irk you? y? you have a thai tirak? The person who ask for my "comments" did not even talk so much and you, just another dumb idiot angry for fuck?

LASTLY DONT BRING "MOTHER AND FATHER" THING IN HERE. KNN, want to talk about mother and father here.. CB. LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING.

]NEVER INSULT ANOTHER PERSON'S PARENTS IN A FORUM. ITS ONLY SHOW HOW GOOD YOUR UPBRINGINGS IS. DONT TELL ME YOU DONT HAVE A FATHER AND MOTHER TO TEACH YOU WHEN YOU ARE BORN?

I DONT KNOW ABT YOU. BUT AT LEAST I AM TOLD TO RESPECT OTHERS ON THAT. YOU? MAYBE NOT, JUDGING AT THE WAY YOU HAVE WRITTEN. BETTER GO AND ASK YOUR MUM, SMALL BOY.

DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN. ASK YOUR MUM TO GO SAMMYBOY AND SEE IF YOUR MUM WILL CANE YOU FOR THAT. READ CAREFULLY FIRST BEFORE YOU COMMENT IF YOU HAVE A BRAIN TO ANALYZE THAT.

Peter_North · #**1582** 22-06-2009, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by borom

I think these general statements are not useful and tantamount to racial stereotyping.
Its like saying that all Chinese are greedy,Indians are unreliable, Malays are lazy, Filipinas are maids, Caucasians are straight forward ect2.
Its not true.
These grandmother type of saying belong to the old days when education was the privilege of the few and not in today's internet era.

By all means curse and swear at all the Thai prostitutes, bar girls, ect2 that cheated you and highlight your individual experiences for all our brothers to read and learn but we should not curse a whole race or country because of the actions of a minority.

Can you quote a Sociology/Anthropology study to back up your statements.

Try reading " Culture Shock- Thailand " by Robert Cooper( former lecturer of NUS) for a start.

Whenever someone put forward his or her opinion, there is bound to be another one who will claim that it's generalization or stereotyping. For goodness sake, it's an opinion based on a person's personal experience; it's not, and it could never be a statement of fact.

A personal opinion is not about whether it's true or not true; it's about being persuasive. It may appear persuasive to one group, but perhaps not so objective to another group. We must not measure opinion the way we measure facts.

Sometimes the truth does not always present itself in the most direct way, and experience as well as opinions are necessary in order for us to move nearer to the truth. A person may have stereotyped a situation, but at least the stereotyping provides "some" knowledge or insight.

Now you said: "these general statements are not useful..." Isn't this itself a form of stereotyping ? You generalize it by calling it a generalization, and you stereotype it by calling it stereotyping. You are just as much guilty of stereotyping such opinions by claiming that they are not useful. I don't want to ask if you have any statistics to back up to say that these opinions are not useful. At least for me, even if I'm on the receiving end, I still find such opinions useful. Look beyond the attempt to stereotype but go right into the meat of the opinions.

For eg., I have not been in any relationship with a Thai WL, but if I were to get into a relationship with a Thai WL, I surely would not 'brush aside' opinions in this forum just because some may come across as an attempt to stereotype. Some opinions may not be applicable to my individual situation, but that doesn't mean they have no value at all.

I read with the clear mind that these opinions are not meant to be universal truth, but I seek knowledge from their experiences and will assign appropriate value to such opinions accordingly. Each opinion provides a valuable sample of the overall truth.

FL Lover · #**1583** 06-07-2009, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by city.people

u mother cheebye.talk so much in internet no use la.come out met me to have yr mother cheebye face rearranged. buay song lai,humji mai kpkb so much.

every weekend yr father me at geylang lor 15.u wan,u come down.i beg u pls bring more ppl come.

how?talk so much?dare anot?

Hhahaah... chao ah beng... no wonder u like to scold pple mother or father.... pple like you got no mother to teach you properly, of course behave in such way... I forgive your LJ mouth for that. Poor kid. Got mother also did not teach you properly on how to ZUO REN.

Bring pple come? U think u big time gangster? Gangsters in sg dont live long anyway. Pls leh... I dont even have a father like you. Even if I have a son like you, I also paisei.

Anyhow chio pple to settle things. Y? Cannot win me by words, must PM me. Got balls to chio me, y no balls to scold me in the forum. Have to PM me?

must ask me go settle outside? Go geylang meet me... I more classy. Meet me at police stn loh. I print out your PM BIG BIG..

No need talk so much. Your actions already show what kind of person u r..

Ah boy, your parents never tell u properly. Let me teach you.

1) NEVER FIGHT with PPLE over LITTLE THINGS

2) Never Scold PPLE FATHER OR MOTHER

3) BAI REN ZHEN JING.

4) If u cannot WIN, TIAM TIAM tiao hor.... Try to be HERO you end up die faster.

5) Your parent never teach you ah? Never leave any evidence behind to prove your intention. YOUR PM is consider a CRIMINAL threat to me. Dont believe? Dare meet me at police stn. I show you how powerful laws can be in protecting good citizens like us who dont resort to VIOLENCE. Even civil sue u also cannot win me with your pm locked in my mail..

Lastly. if you want to ruin your life, fuck care by all means. But if you think you are some big fucks over here...u are making BIG MISTAKES. I work using my brain and not my brawn. Humji? Most of us know that knowledge is power. Brain always win as compare to brawn, idiot.

TRY NOT TO BE A COCKROACH IN THE SOCIETY. We have enough of pples like you.

HCKing · #**1584** 06-07-2009, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Charmaine

I'm hurt, she's hurt - wouldn't it be easier to just say "Hey, let's give this another try"? Nooooooo. It's more fun to hurt together, isn't it?

maybe she is waiting for u to pop the question bro? a test to assure her of hw much u love her?

goodpartner · #**1585** 06-07-2009, 05:11 PM

OT bit, can any kind thai bros here tell me if there's an equivalent thai website to check the local lottery result? Something like our singaporepools.com.sg?

Okie ok, not exactly OT. I told my tirak if we kanna the first prize, I'll marry her. Need to check our ticket number for 1st July

Thanks in advanced.