Marrying A Thai ger

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

avg $$$ to give her if about 10k a mth if stay in a villiage infact it already alot. usual family staying in villiage about 4 to 5k is good enough to feed the whole family.

the sum for monthly expenditure usually subject itself to the size of the household + liabilities in tow. ie; some have a bus-load of siblings, some have no siblings at all, some have only 1 parent to feed, some... parent(s) r pathological gambler...etc.

Originally Posted by pussyman72

as for sinsoot it all up to the family n her. i know of bros who's wife family dont take any sinsoot and married to sgp.

on that note, i think we also should b reminded that the wife is a spouse. i've learnt of several upsetting cases, where the girl is married n becomes 'prisoner' - privileges restricted, her daily routine no different to that of 'domestic helper', allowance is sometimes worse of than those compared to legitimate 'domestic helpers' (where welfare assurance is mandatory). some have rifts with the parents-in-laws, n have to put up constant stuggle/endurance.... etc.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by vmtech

Kengtung really nothing to do besides selling bbq stuff, kow soi/fern/soi noi by the roads, opening a restaurent like many others by Nongtuum lake, running a guesthouse tt charges 5usd/night

keke tts about all sia.

What mine did was purchase paddy lands/fish lakes and renting them out, collecting rent and a % of the harvest.
pretty good returns and ensures a stable supply of rice etc. even if cannot rent out, paddyfields are there for u to DIY and make ur own harvests worth.

i've also heard of some who set cooking stalls near the rivers/lakes (fishing/ crabbing spots)... n they charge a small fee to convert your catch into a sumptious meal. nt a bad thought i suppose, since its minimal running costs, with perpetual clientele.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by Alkano

Is there a "cooling off" period?
Currently my gf and me are kinda having a tiff, she is not replying any of my sms.
Called her last week but seem like she don't really want to talk....
Keep telling her if anything, don't keep it to heart...share with me...
Always hitting a wall on this topic.
Any ideas on how i can get her to reply to me or break the ice?

1. how often does this happen? (relationship ongoing for how long?)
2. how does the problem arise? (who blows off 1st?)
3. the dispute arises over what kinda matter? (eg: she/u talk/ask too much?
4. r the 2 of u being transparent w each other?
5. does the cold war repeat itself? (interval of frequency?)

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by Si Geena

...And I was terrified during that 2 days when she stonewalled.

stonewalled... nice way of phrasing it. i reckon that they're rather emotional ppl, n they're nt afraid to let their feelings show, though sometimes can be misunderstood. eg: holding/hugging among frens/peers is just open affection, nt answering phone/silence dun necessarily = break-up...etc.

their lifestyle can sometimes b more rugged/hardy than our's (their ladies appear docile/demure, bt definately capable of chores that sometimes put men to shame)- n i think many can vouch to that. given the fact that they're engaged in labor intensive errands/chores + tempramental weather... they sometimes prefer safe-keeping their precious phones at home.

of cos, some have higher tendency of being forgetful/careless in mishandling things. so dun be surprised that the contact number changes at their convenience. if u're important enough to her, she'd probably memorize your number by hard, or, have it penned somewhere in her diary. if it happens otherwise, then too bad so sad.

good or bad, all these come together as a package...

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

bro Alkano. i believe u posted this last week or 2. u still having problem contacting her or she not answering u. if so u should by now know what to do.

u wanna know what is the cooling period? there cooling period date. base on what i know on some girls i been with or even for a normal friend or person. even angry after few days, everything should have cool off and willing to talk.

unless u telling me there is bad blood till cannot talk then there is nothing to talk anymore cos he or she does not want to get involve with u anymore....

so it all up to u now.

cooling period on avg, can vary anywhere between; ½hr(min)~3days(max). though for some exceptional cases, can stretch as long as 5days.... anything longer than that... "thank u for playing, pls add more credit to continue... 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5... 3, 2, 1"

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by Charmaine

Hi,

Have you apologised? Maybe you should.

That "keeping things to heart" you can't change - they're going to do it. I've learnt not to confront. If they want to tell you, they will. No point forcing them into a corner.

As what Si Geena has already mentioned, if she sees you again it'll probably all be ok again. But you have to convince her that you're serious about making it work and that you're sorry.

sorry, is not for saying sake. sorry must mean it. sorry also means nt repeating the same mistake again. if there's signs of improvements, she's nt blind, she's nt inhuman... she can see/sense it. bt if its one's character to force his apology upon her... its as gd as nt apologizing at all.

then again, to be a couple, 1 should already understand her character well enough; know her likes n dislikes. no reason y 1 keeps stepping on her toes, making all the wrong moves, saying all the wrong things that upsets her.

sooner or later, saying sorry is nt gonna make any difference, she'd rather drop the whole thing like a hot sack of potatoes, move on to find happiness with some1 whom she finds better comfort in, n doesnt upset her as often.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by Alkano

I agree that long distance relationship is hard to manage and maintain.
I am just lost now in what to do coz she absolutely "freeze" me out..
Is there anything i can say in my sms to her?
I can't leave Singapore and go to find her coz i am tied up with work over here.
I know she is angry with something but i think she just don't want to say.
Kinda shaky at the moment.....
Hope there is some suggestions....

1 advice for u... u cant use force on ice. 1 wrong move, it could chip or even crack n crumble. u can either wait it out for the meltdown, or adopt other means to accelerate the thawing process.

[Cyberspace Nerd]

Originally Posted by Alkano

I agree that long distance relationship is hard to manage and maintain.
I am just lost now in what to do coz she absolutely "freeze" me out..
Is there anything i can say in my sms to her?
I can't leave Singapore and go to find her coz i am tied up with work over here.
I know she is angry with something but i think she just don't want to say.
Kinda shaky at the moment.....
Hope there is some suggestions....

One advice for you. Go and find another girl.

[The Oracle]

[QUOTE=pussyman72;2804907]

Originally Posted by Si Geena

Jai yen yen, translates literally to heart cold cold. It's not as awful as it sounds, it just means being calm and patient, the direct contrast to Jai rorn, or heart hot, which means impatient, blustery.[\QUOTE]

actual should be keep cool

mr loser can teach other ppl thai when his own thai is fuck up big time.

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[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by vmtech

Kengtung really nothing to do besides selling bbq stuff, kow soi/fern/soi noi by the roads, opening a restaurent like many others by Nongtuum lake, running a guesthouse tt charges 5usd/night

keke tts about all sia.

What mine did was purchase paddy lands/fish lakes and renting them out, collecting rent and a % of the harvest.
pretty good returns and ensures a stable supply of rice etc. even if cannot rent out, paddyfields are there for u to DIY and make ur own harvests worth.

I'm not sure if it's the same lake, but I've been to one that's beautiful and tranquil, sorrouded by a nice walking pavement with rows of houses on its parameter; there's a popular "satay" shop at the corner too! However, I was told it's been bought over by someone and thus "private" - can't do fishing publicly so I wonder if it's the same lake. Maybe your wife bought this lake?

Anyway, she'll be staying in Maesai, not KT (or are you referring to Maesai above?). My suggestion to be a tour guide is more because I expect her to be going back/forth KT.

Buying land/lakes sounds like a great investment given what you mentioned. Are they affordable? This is one option I'll ask her consider even if she's not staying there.

Originally Posted by pussyman72

maybe u should take alook on internet shop over in maesai. the last few time i go there i dont really see alot.
:
just get some where near the hotel can liao. think avg rental for a 3 story shop is about 8 to 10k baht a mth. she can stay in the shop also cos upstair can be ur own bed room.

She stay very near the myanmar-thai border immigration and right there are many tourists, esp ang-moh there. Quite a few internet shops around the area right at the end of those shops... so I did wonder if the competition will be tight when I see this tread some months ago. She know nuts about computers, so it's also a challenge... but your idea of setting it up for her in the begining sounds workable since I can stay/work there with such setup

Thanks for all the break-down on the cost! I didn't know renting a 3-storey shop only cost less than SGD400/month! Good idea as a lodging too, but her sis oredi bought a new house there that's why she's moving there to stay. Maybe can be use a guest-house cum internet shop... this one sounds good too.

Thanks guys!

[Alkano]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

1 advice for u... u cant use force on ice. 1 wrong move, it could chip or even crack n crumble. u can either wait it out for the meltdown, or adopt other means to accelerate the thawing process.

What other means?
Can advise?

[Cyberspace Nerd]

Originally Posted by Alkano

What other means?
Can advise?

how about buying her a 2nd hand mobile phone to pacify her?

[pussyman72]

Originally Posted by Alkano

What other means?
Can advise?

bro alkano dont mean to be nasty on u. u already said the last time round bcos of $$$ both of u have a quarrle. why not u send $$$ to her lor maybe she will answer ur call or sms.

tell u dont understand still think n think.... hiaz in the end u will be the one later suffer n come to forum n tell us ur story.....

as i have said to u before. wanna talk talk dont wanna talk then fark it. if 1 to 2 weeks still like this then fark it n move on. fark bkk so many girls only her ah.....

u already get ur answer from most of the bros here. u wanna save what.... if the girl not going to be with u, no matter what shit u do for her also useless. u wanna listen listen dont want nobody can help u. even they give u tricks or advice also cannot help, it all in ur head. Sit down n think it properly n not using ur dick head.....

[vmtech]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

I'm not sure if it's the same lake, but I've been to one that's beautiful and tranquil, sorrouded by a nice walking pavement with rows of houses on its parameter; there's a popular "satay" shop at the corner too! However, I was told it's been bought over by someone and thus "private" - can't do fishing publicly so I wonder if it's the same lake. Maybe your wife bought this lake?

it's the same lake, think got 1 cafe there and it's named Singapore Cafe. LOL

i wished she bought it but nope LOL

the satay shop ar, right before the slope? yeah very nice, the couple there are xipsongpanna people, speaks chinese.

[Alkano]

Originally Posted by pussyman72

u already get ur answer from most of the bros here. u wanna save what.... if the girl not going to be with u, no matter what shit u do for her also useless. u wanna listen listen dont want nobody can help u. even they give u tricks or advice also cannot help, it all in ur head. Sit down n think it properly n not using ur dick head.....

If it is that easy, i will not even be asking in the first place...right?
I am asking coz this is a forum to share and i do thks those for their thoughts and views on my situation.
I am sitting down thinking coz all these feedbacks, views and opinions do help.
It does clear the mind a bit to do some serious thinking.
They are not a easy lot of ppl to deal with in the first place.
Many thanks to the brothers here.
Thanks for the support and help.