Bros need Advised , i in love with a Viet ktv girl

[billgates]

Ya, it's too early to tell whether she is sincere. But if she is willing to bring u back to her hometown and intro her parents etc, then u know she means business. VN gals do not take lightly introducing boys to their parents. Imagine if she brings home ALL her regular customers, her village will think she is a slut.

Carry on with her for a year or two and see how it goes. Don't get too kancheong over the relationship which is still in its early days.

[xyman]

My baba still cannot say I love you straight to me. Everytime I ask her if she love me, she say 'i don't love you love who'... Everytime say if I dun trust her, go look for other girls....

Then when I never call her, she message me 'ongxa busy with work'.. Sometime knock off late also ask me where I go, drive home late due to traffic jam also ask me why so long then home... Think she just cannot show me that she care about me straight.. Wonder if anyone baxa is like that also?

Originally Posted by redstorm

Giving my 2 cents worth, as someone who took the plunge and is about to marry a Vietnam lady.

First of all, she is not a WL and has never been to Singapore. Despite that, the initial period was very bad, as I would constantly be torn between is she lying to me, or is she sincere?

Bro, at the end of the day, i likened this situation to a war:

There are always 2 sides in a War. Side A and Side B. Side A = Trust her 100%, she is sincere and Side B = She is fake. Like a real war, you need to choose a side - you cannot stand in the middle and be a 2 headed snake (Aka trust her 50%, doubt her 50%)

Pick your side, and never look back. For me, I choose Side A and never again did i doubt her.

Bro, at the end of the day, only YOU will know how she treats you, what she told you, the way she strokes your hair while telling I love you. We cannot be the judge. However, my advice is if you decide to trust her 100%, you must be prepared to lose everything.

For example: if you commit 10k to her (marriage etc) and you decide to trust her 100%, be prepared to lose this 10k.

Anyway, good luck to you

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by billgates

But if she is willing to bring u back to her hometown and intro her parents etc, then u know she means business. VN gals do not take lightly introducing boys to their parents. Imagine if she brings home ALL her regular customers, her village will think she is a slut.

Bro .... Bingo .... You are absolutey right

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by xyman

My baba still cannot say I love you straight to me.
Think she just cannot show me that she care about me straight?

Bro , if she bring you back to see her parents, relatives , villages .. etc ..
You are probably the chosen one ....

VN gal looks stern, unconcern, etc ... being their traditional culture, inside them they are still shy about it ....

Like my BX, she only say 1 day 1 time I Love you, anything more she will make noise ..

My BX don't even say sorry most of the time ... but when you are very concern about it , she will say sorry ...

Outside when walking, if hold her hand , she feel so shy coz everbody looking at her ...

Pease understand their culture and also having a foreign BF/OX, every eyes are on them ...

Good thing they will keep in their heart and they will remember .... they don't show it out ....
Bad things they wil rant about it ...

But then , when only 2 of you, you do what also can ..

[xyman]

Yup, she bring me back to her hometown before and many people come to her place. Feel a bit embarrass..

Once a long time, my baxa will say sorry and I can feel is a sincere one because she seldom say sorry to me..

Originally Posted by shysaint

Bro , if she bring you back to see her parents, relatives , villages .. etc ..
You are probably the chosen one ....

VN gal looks stern, unconcern, etc ... being their traditional culture, inside them they are still shy about it ....

Like my BX, she only say 1 day 1 time I Love you, anything more she will make noise ..

My BX don't even say sorry most of the time ... but when you are very concern about it , she will say sorry ...

Outside when walking, if hold her hand , she feel so shy coz everbody looking at her ...

Pease understand their culture and also having a foreign BF/OX, every eyes are on them ...

Good thing they will keep in their heart and they will remember .... they don't show it out ....
Bad things they wil rant about it ...

But then , when only 2 of you, you do what also can ..

[redstorm]

bro, what you said is true. Most Viet ladies (mine included) are quite shy.

Nevertheless, I wish you nothing but the best!

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by question1999

she will always sms me in the morning and night saying "darling she miss me","Wo xiang ni" etc etc
so i too begin to fall in love with her but just yesterday night , at the ktv , i was playing with her iphone when i saw a customer sms her , i happen to see the sms and she was also calling the customer "darling" also. the sms is more or less the same that she always send me ,one of my bros told me that if i look at another angle , if she dun used this type of way to "PR" how is she going to bring the customer back to her ?.


My Question is What i`m i going to do ?
1. she told me she love me but she's calling other people "darling"
2. i planning to go vietnam to visit her family , should i still go?
3 should i let go of this relationship?

This is not PR but KC trap...never trust a WL...they are here to work and earn $$$...if I am you, quickly dump her fast before you sink deeper...read up the Vn threads esp. this thread "Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner"...click here http://sammythe.guru/showthr...64297&page=546...inside there plenty of similar cases like yours...

Imagine if she has 1 darling pay her $250 per month then 4 darlings will pay her $1,000.00 per month...Viet WL is the biggest liar...As for visit her family, all family members can stage a good show just to let you sink deeper to be with her...seen enough of these shows...

Dun live in denial and never ever think "she is different from other WL"...

If you trust WL then "pigs also can climb trees"

[S.B.Y]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Should be "Need ADVICE...". "Advise" is a verb.

ADVIS in Indo

[mmboy]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

If you trust WL then "pigs also can climb trees"

when seeing this reminds me that In China the single ladies said "if you trust what man said then pigs climb trees"

Bro TS, fls are for fucking, not for loving

[w00ters]

bro ts maybe u can try telling me which ktv she wking at so that i can try my luck on her..if i manage to up her than i will inform u..and u can drop ur idea of marrying her...

[Fav69]

Dear TS,

Nobody is in any position to judge if your viet gal is sincere or not. Being a WL doesn't necessary rule her as one without emotion. Yes, they r here to work for the money , she has to treat everyone customer " nice" but whether she meant it real with u ... only u will know as u progresses ur relationship w her further.

What's the rush, it ain't the end of the world nor is she the only one left in town from vietnam. Having spent $250 so far, u kinda of worry you being "roberted" ? Isn't it common that even with Sg gals, some have spent tons of money when they are in a "steady relationship " for years but still eventually breaks up ?

U want a quick answer ? If u are dead serious...... Pull her out from this WL trade and discard her sim card with all her customers contact. Be prepare to forget her past works n activites ,change her life for the better , commit more to her, improve her lifestyle but draw a line from the very beginning as to what you are willing to do , especially as far as money is concern. Even if you r well to do, u need not hand her the entire bank account. Bring her home to see your family, or better still, put her up at your place for the rest of her stay in Singapore and really spend time together. Go w her to her hometown n meet her family, u will be glad if she does that cos it show she is serious w u. She is opening up her world up you . Move on and develop your relationship ...

Every single relationship is kinda different due to differences in background and situation ... this forum cannot provide u w anything nor should we stereotype all WLs into one particular character and handle your relationship w her based on comments from bros here.

If you ain't ready to seriously commit, then hold your horses..enjoy her company and her attention, do what u want for her as its your time and money, allow her the freedom to work for a living ,take it easy and you are still free to sow your seeds and hunt further...

All the best !!

[shysaint]

Well Said Bro

[lugi]

Interesting. I met with something similiar recently.

Got to know a WL from who occasionally comes to Singapore to work. Met her on a singles website and exchanged numbers 2 months back but never met. Told me that we joined the website to find a BF in Singapore. She is a divorcee with no kids. Said that she is in this line cos she needs to settle some problem.

Was recently in Vietnam for a work trip so feeling bored, called her up and went out dinner. On the 2nd night, I was dead tired, so I asked her come to my hotel room first before we decide where to go eat. After she came, ended up ordering room service and watching TV, and me giving her a massage. She kept asking me to remove my jeans so that I would be more comfortable but I declined. I was feeling damn tired and no mood to bed her. When she kept asking, I told her that I have no intention to be her customer. Shortly after, she left, I think pissed off that I wasted her time.

2 nites later, she sms me asked me whether I was angry with her as I did not contact her the day before. I told her I was busy and did not want to waste her time. We then went for drinks that night and she introduced her friend to a friend of mine who was with me. My friend decided to spend the night with her friend (paid sex) and left, leaving me alone with her. She bluntly asked whether I taking her back to my hotel, and I reiterated no. She bluntly asked why I did not want to make love to her and I said again I do not want to be her customer. She then said I do not understand her: She said she treated me like her boyfriend and just wants to have sex with me. If I did not want, can just spend the night to sleep together. That night, we had supper and she asked me to send her home. She let me into her house and showed me around and at the end of it, gave me a peck on the lips and said good bye to me. (I was leaving the next day).

When I was the airport, she said she missed me and reiterated that she wants us to make love in Singapore.

Well, I have never met a WL who is so insistent about having sex, and I can't figured out her motive. Btw, it seems she don't hide anythig from me, she shows me everything on her handphone and every sms she sends or receives when I am with her.

Bros here, if you have any views, feel free to share.

Cheers
Lugi

[alan0338]

Originally Posted by lugi

Btw, it seems she don't hide anythig from me, she shows me everything on her handphone and every sms she sends or receives when I am with her.

Bros here, if you have any views, feel free to share.

Cheers
Lugi

bro, she nv hide anything from u cos u havent found out ma, thats y u said she nv hide anything from u...
and imo as to y she is so insistent on fucking with u is simple, once got fuck, means got $$$ ma, have profit is at least better than nil rite...
and forgive me for asking, did u pay her any amount for her companionship even though u nv fuck her?

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by lugi

Bros here, if you have any views, feel free to share

Viet gals are not like PRC gals, whom are very mercenery. They work thier way thru differently. They are often describe as roses with thorns.

She need you to try the sex to get you hooked. I dun know how they do it but probably spice things up with alot of sweet nothing and feminine. Thier cast line are very long. Some dun just look for instant cash, they also look for long term financial stability; husband/lover.

But whether they truly loves you or not, that's another story.